Dream Interpretation: My Recurring Lesbian Friend Dream

Strength and Patience by Hendrick Goltzius (1500s)

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I keep having a reoccurring dream were I am sleeping with a friend who is in a committed lesbian relationship and has just had a baby too. What does this mean? Please help!

Lauri Recurring dreams are typically caused by one of two things: a recurring behavior pattern, each time you exhibit the behavior you get the dream or an ongoing issue, for as long as the issue continues so will the dream. In your case, I think the latter may be the case.

Now, remember, dreams are symbolic and not to be looked at literally, therefore your friend is probably not playing herself as much as she symbolizes something you desire. Sex dreams are usually about that which we wish to unite or incorporate into our own life or our own behavior (sex is the ultimate union, after all). That being said, perhaps she represents the idea of being in a committed relationship and starting a family. Is that something you would like to incorporate into your life? If not, then what else stands out about this friend? Is she really easy going, for example, and do you wish you could take on her laissez–faire attitude?

A good way to figure it out is to play the word association game and pick three words that first come to mind when you think of her. Once you’ve got them, see if you can really relate to any of them or see if you desire any of them for yourself. Odds are, you’ll make that connection. The next thing to do, is work on making that a part of your own life or a part of your self. Once you do, the dream will stop.

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