Gender Issues
Movies
The Slow But (Hopefully) Steady Erosion of Gender Stereotypes

Stop the presses! A detergent commercial with just a normal dad doing laundry. For our book club, we’re reading the 2003 novel “We Need to Talk About Kevin” by Lionel Shriver.* I, Lo, knowing nothing about the book or its author, began reading and was amazed that a male author could create a female narrator that […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Do Most Guys Think of Feminism?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do most guys think of feminism: a successful movement that’s not needed any more, an eternal campaign of whiney man-haters, or a philosophy that makes the world a better place for both men and women?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Bisexual […]

Pop Culture
“Bounce That Dick,” Feminist or Not?

When we were sent a link to the new YouTube video “Bounce That Dick” on the Jenna Marbles channel, we didn’t know what to expect: some kind of safe-for-work sexual technique advice video by a porn star turned educator? Then, during the first 30 seconds, our hopes were raised, as the young “blogger and entertainer” began […]

Websites
Winners of a Great Rewrite-the-Ending Contest

Through our friend, Lynn Harris, writer, co-creator of Breakup Girl, and now communications strategist for something called Breakthrough, we heard about a “Rewrite the Ending” contest (which ended last month): Show of hands- How many of you wish that: – Andy (Pretty in Pink) had ended up with Ducky? – After Willy dies (Death of a […]

Confessions
Comments of the Week: What’s Good for the Goose Is Good for the Gander

photo via Flickr We wouldn’t want you to think EMandLO.com is anally fixated or anything, we just really appreciate the whole “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” argument when it comes to defending straight men being receptive to a little backdoor love. Hence, the second comment of the week in a […]

Research
How Different Are Girls’ and Boys’ Brains?

It’s a favorite question of ours…okay, of mine (i.e. Lo’s). And my personal answer is that yes, there are differences, but not as many or as great as our culture likes to assume or presume. And that bias we have as a society actually influences the development of boys’ and girls’ brains (which are elastic) […]

Pop Culture
Artist Rion Sabean’s “Men-Ups”

We once did a photo shoot for The Sun, that super trashy but widely popular newspaper in the UK (you know, the one with the “Page 3 girl”). We were promoting the British edition of our book, The Big Bang. We were young and naive, the photographer was old and pushy, and as he gradually encouraged us […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is Manscaping Required These Days?

photo by Vladimir Istomin Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Is manscaping automatically required these days for men under a certain age? And if so, what does this entail exactly?” Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): Without knowing exactly what age you mean, or whether I fall into this age […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Tomboy vs. Girly Girl — Who Wins?

photo by Americanistadechiapas Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Regarding the “guy’s girl”: Is a woman who’ll shoot pool and pound a few brews automatically sexier than a girly girl?” Straight Single Guy (Chris): Let’s get this one straight once and for all. There is nothing sexier than […]

Pop Culture
Beyonce, Who Run the World? Not Girls.

Beyonce’s latest hit “Run the World” is a girl-power anthem, sort of: “Who run the world? Girls” over and over. Maybe it’s aspirational. Eh, probably not. We think this smart and harsh take by Vlogger “Nineteen Percent” is a better breakdown of the song: we don’t run the world, we do get disrespected, gypped at […]

Confessions
Comments of the Week: Living Outside the Box

photo via Flickr We recently highlighted an article by sex educator Charlie Glickman about how, in order to be perceived as “real men,” heterosexual guys have to live in a box of strict and limited gender stereotypes. It sparked a little debate in the comments section: Johnny: This article leaves women out altogether! Female reaction […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of talking […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Can I Get My Man to Cuddle More?

photo by Leeni Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How can I get a guy to cuddle more?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Two ways really. One — I find I’m at my cuddliest immediately post-orgasm, especially if it’s a really big one that comes from an especially intense […]

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Guys, Crawl Out of Your Man Caves

We like the image of Plato’s allegorical cave, but adult sex educator Charlie Glickman calls it the Man Box, or more specifically, the Act-Like-A-Man Box. In a series of blog posts earlier this month, Glickman explained how, in order to be perceived as “real men,” heterosexual guys have to live in a box of strict […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Gagging During Oral — Hot or Not?

photo by Public Domain Photos Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men think about a woman gagging while giving oral sex? How does the fact that it’s a porn trope affect your real life experiences? Is it a turn on or do most men just feel […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Get a Girl Pregnant (But I’m a Woman!)

photo by karindaiziel Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream that I was a man and I’ve somehow gotten some girl pregnant. I started freaking out […]