We wouldn’t want you to think EMandLO.com is anally fixated or anything, we just really appreciate the whole “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” argument when it comes to defending straight men being receptive to a little backdoor love. Hence, the second comment of the week in a row dedicated to anal attention. Several commenters have expressed similar notions, and we’ve included the best below, but we think BCofUIMHere really got to the heart of the matter most elegantly:
BCofUIMHere Says:
December 17th, 2011 at 3:22 pm e
Before I answer if anal play makes you gay, answer me this: Does going down on your girlfriend make you a lesbian?Dannie Says:
November 30th, 2011 at 11:48 am e
It’s only gay if you’re having sex with a man. Gay men do anal, but they also have oral sex, so by your proxy reasoning, would having oral sex with your girlfriend make you gay, too? NO. Gay men kiss one another, too. So if you kiss your girlfriend, does that make you gay? NO. Gay men might hold hands sometimes, so if you hold hands with your girlfriend…you get the picture?figleaf Says:
November 30th, 2011 at 1:09 pm e
1) Yeah, what Dannie said. Gay men have zippers on their pants, buttons on their shirts, and they brush and floss their teeth too. Brushing your teeth doesn’t make you gay, it just makes your girlfriend or wife a lot more interested in having sex with you. Having more sex with your girlfriend does not make you gay.
I think it’s slightly more nuanced than the pants/shirt thing.
I understand that there are gay men who do not enjoy being on the business end of anal sex, yet identify with and presumably (hopefully) enjoy the other trappings of their gender identity.
I’ve been told that many men who feel they are straighter than a grizzly bear’s dong enjoy a periodic shocker if given ample warning/warm lubricant.