Online Dating
Pop Culture
Top 10 Pickup Lines for 2012

Most of the contributions to the recent Twitter hashtag #2012PickUpLines were pretty uninspiring. (Exhibit A: “I’d like to buy a new router for you and your friend. And ‘Route Her’ and yourself into my bedroom tonight.” Er, okay, Beavis.) But we were inspired by Rainn Wilson (@rainnwilson) of THE OFFICE, who tweeted, “Can I piggy-back […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: What Are the Rules for Online Dating?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I live […]

What The Economist Doesn’t Get About Online Dating

photo via flickr A recent article in The Economist magazine examines a bunch of scientific papers about online dating in an attempt to figure out if any of those fancy matching algorithms are better than old-fashioned matchmakers like your grandmother. Or even if simply all that choice — and all those checkboxes! — improves your […]

The New Nerve Personals

It seems like just yesterday the two of us were out on the fire escape of the office, smoking (smoking!) and coming up with the profile questions for the original Nerve Personals (you may remember “______ is sexy; ______ is sexier”). The Nerve Personals had a meteoric rise, signing up affiliate partners like Salon and The […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Online Crush Sucks My Energy Like a Psychic Vampire

photo by Shawn Allen Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, the dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: So in real life there is this guy that I’m currently talking to on the internet. He seems […]

Top 10 Reasons Why Wednesdays Are the Best Night to Get Laid

photo via flickr In a recent article for the New York Times, statistician Nate Silver hooked up with OkCupid’s Nate Rudder to determine which day of the week is best to meet someone at a bar. They came up with something called the “sexual availability index,” and found that you’re most likely to get laid […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of talking […]

Comment of the Week: How to Spot Dating-Site Spam on Craigslist

Steven, commenting on the post “Dating on Craigslist Is a Crap Shoot” CL is Crap. Period. Folks, 99% of what you read in [their] personal sections–including under ‘Platonic’–is spam from dating site affiliates.  And here’s the way to spot them: 1) No contractions or contractions without apostrophes, e.g., ‘I am,’ or ‘Im,’ etc. 2) No […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is My Cougar Relationship Doomed?

photo by Harlequeen We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Pop Culture
New York City Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Ariel Sabar’s new book, Heart of the City: Nine Stories of Love and Serendipity on the Streets of New York, follows couples from the 1940s to the present whose matchmaker was New York City. We chatted with him about location-location-location — and what it means for love. EM & LO: What got you first interested […]

How To
How to Survive a Blind Date in 6 Easy Steps

photo by paris_corrupted The blind date is alive and well, thanks to online dating and well-intentioned grandmothers. But what if your blind date turns out to be a loud talker with halitosis and a goiter? Given the odds, it’s amazing that otherwise intelligent beings ever agree to a blind date. Call it hope triumphing over […]

Scientifically Proven First-Date Questions

image via OKTrends Regular readers of this blog will know that we are mildly obsessed with the dating research blog OKTrends (it’s attached to the dating site OKCupid) — check out our past coverage of OKTrends on the myth of gay evangelism, the (consistent, predictable) way we lie online, misconceptions about online profile photos, and the […]

Dubious iPhone App of the Week

Fake Calls is an iPhone app that lets you receive a fake call on your phone — you can either tap the icon on your home screen (discreetly labeled FC) and your phone will ring in ten seconds, or else you can schedule a call in advance. Your phone will look and sound exactly like […]

No, He's Not Trying to Turn You Gay

graphic via OKTrends We are completely hooked on the dating research blog OKTrends because of how often it reminds us that the world is, in fact, a sane place — no matter how many of our politicians think that gay people shouldn’t be allowed to teach in schools or die for their country or get […]

The REAL Stuff White People Like

Stuff White Men Like, according to 526K OKCupid profiles StuffWhitePeopleLike (TED Conference? World Cup? Picking their own fruit? Genius!) is one of our favorite blogs in the universe — seriously, it ranks right up there with FAILblog, even if it’s a bit of a one-note joke (but every time we leave it be for a […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Will This Online Fling Lead to Anything?

Share your advice for this reader in the comments section below… Dear Em & Lo, There is this guy I have been talking to online. Both of us feel that vibe in the air and we know we are so right for each other. He has girlfriend, but still he enjoys his time and shares […]