Online Dating
Confessions
Comment: Use Video Chat, Just Don’t Fall in Love Over It

photo via Flickr Jen, in response to the post “Your Call: Can You Fall in Love Through Video Chats?” My husband and I certainly went a long way down the road to love through video chats [ — it was] about 8 months before we could meet in person. I certainly wouldn’t [advise making] any […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can You Fall in Love Through Video Chats?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I met a great man through an […]

Research
Online Dating’s Fatal Flaws

photo via Flickr Researches recently published a book-length article in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest on the scientific flaws of online dating. They wrote a layperson’s summary for Scientific American, but even that was three pages long (practically an eternity in internet time). So here’s what you need to know in a nutshell: Online dating’s […]

Pop Culture
Top 10 Pickup Lines for 2012

Most of the contributions to the recent Twitter hashtag #2012PickUpLines were pretty uninspiring. (Exhibit A: “I’d like to buy a new router for you and your friend. And ‘Route Her’ and yourself into my bedroom tonight.” Er, okay, Beavis.) But we were inspired by Rainn Wilson (@rainnwilson) of THE OFFICE, who tweeted, “Can I piggy-back […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: What Are the Rules for Online Dating?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I live […]

Research
What The Economist Doesn’t Get About Online Dating

photo via flickr A recent article in The Economist magazine examines a bunch of scientific papers about online dating in an attempt to figure out if any of those fancy matching algorithms are better than old-fashioned matchmakers like your grandmother. Or even if simply all that choice — and all those checkboxes! — improves your […]

Websites
The New Nerve Personals

It seems like just yesterday the two of us were out on the fire escape of the Nerve.com office, smoking (smoking!) and coming up with the profile questions for the original Nerve Personals (you may remember “______ is sexy; ______ is sexier”). The Nerve Personals had a meteoric rise, signing up affiliate partners like Salon and The […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Online Crush Sucks My Energy Like a Psychic Vampire

photo by Shawn Allen Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, the EMandLO.com dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: So in real life there is this guy that I’m currently talking to on the internet. He seems […]

Research
Top 10 Reasons Why Wednesdays Are the Best Night to Get Laid

photo via flickr In a recent article for the New York Times, statistician Nate Silver hooked up with OkCupid’s Nate Rudder to determine which day of the week is best to meet someone at a bar. They came up with something called the “sexual availability index,” and found that you’re most likely to get laid […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of talking […]