20 Questions to Shake Up Your Long-Term Relationship (in a Good Way)
by Sean Jameson for YourTango
When you feel like you don’t have anything in common anymore, it’s nice to learn something new.

Relationships can get boring if they stay perpetually on the same track. When both of you expect the same activities, same foods, same conversations and so on, even the most committed may begin to look elsewhere for excitement. Keeping a relationship strong and happy, therefore, requires that both of you are fulfilled by one another and that you keep each other on your toes.

One of the best ways to do that? As I explain on my site BadGirlsBible.com, it’s asking each other questions that broaden the scope of the topics you discuss, help you dig into each other’s inner thoughts and feelings, and enable you to share in ways you never thought possible. Plus, novelty is just plain exciting!

Since open conversation is an activity that can take place almost anywhere, ask some of the following questions while out at dinner, cleaning the house, on a road trip, lying in bed, or just enjoying a sunny day on the porch. Bring them up when there’s a lull in the conversation or you’re bored. But if you guys are already addressing questions important to your relationship or you’re in the middle of another topic, don’t throw a hypothetical in the mix. And while these questions can be perfect over a few drinks at a restaurant or when you share a bottle of wine, don’t engage when you’re really sloshed.

You can come up with your own questions, but here are a few to get you started:

20 Questions to Shake Up Your Relationship

1. If you could meet anyone in the world, alive or dead, who would it be?

2. What does friendship look like to you?

3. What is the trait you value most?

4. What do you consider your greatest weakness to be?

5. How do you think others perceive you when they meet you for the first time?

6. What does your perfect day look like?

7. What is your biggest unacknowledged dream?

8. If you could eat anything at all right now, what would you choose?

9. Do you consider yourself a good friend?

10. What is your favorite thing to do?

11. Have you ever been heartbroken?

12. Who is your favorite fictional character ever?

13. Would you rather be rich or famous?

14. If you had to save the world by killing one person, could you live with yourself?

15. What does love look like to you?

16. What is something you would really like to get better at?

17. What is your favorite dessert?

18. You’re going to a desert island. What three things/people do you take?

19. If you could choose any name besides your own, what name would you give yourself?

20. What makes you feel most loved?

As you can see, many of these questions are fairly light, but not all. Even the lighter ones can bring up some heavy answers if you both decide you want to go there. Prepping questions to ask your partner might seem a little silly, or even overly prepared, but really this is just a fun way to engage with the person you love on a deeper level. Words are powerful, and so is knowledge. Talking with the person you love to learn more about them and help you be a better, more involved partner is always a great move if you’re looking for long-term love and happiness.

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