How To
6 Ways to Have More Sex Without It Feeling Like a Chore

According to this research, having more sex may actually make couples less happy — if they feel like they’re being told to have more sex. The Carnegie Mellon study, published in the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization, studied 64 heterosexual married couples between 35 and 65 years old. Group one was told to have sex […]

Pop Culture
10 Things We WON’T Miss from the Fifty Shades Franchise

We finally got closure on our seriously unhealthy relationship with the Fifty Shades juggernaut this past weekend. Fifty Shades Freed, the third and final cinematic adaptation of E.L. James’ best-selling erotica trilogy, was released on Friday — much to the chagrin of hardcore fans and to the relief of movie critics everywhere. The success of […]

Personal Essays
4 Dating Myths We’re STILL Stuck With

Edie Freedman is a student at New York University studying social and cultural analysis, politics and psychology. There she is a writer and editor for The Tab NYU. There is no question that the dating game for young people has changed dramatically in the last decade or so, thanks to social media and quick, instant-decision […]

How To
How to Have Phone Sex in 10 Easy Steps

You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of a little cellular nookie, […]

What Pickup Artistry Can Teach Us About Consent and Better Sex

I studied and practiced “The Game”-style pickup artistry back in the day. This may sound far-fetched, but it’s actually shaped my attitude on the subject of sexual communication and consent for the better. One of the biggest teaching points of many PUAs (pick-up artists) relates directly to the topic in the news of late: sensitivity […]

How To
Make at Least 1 of These 6 Sex Goals Your New Year’s Resolution

There are some promises that are never meant to be kept: I’ll meet you at the bar later after I’ve had a nap. I’m going to hit the gym during my lunch break. I’ll take a look at these materials you’re handing out door-to-door and get back to you.  These promises are empty by design, […]

How To
3 Easy(ish) Steps to Sharing a Fantasy with a Partner

Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry Met Sally?). Or what […]

How To
How to Introduce Sex Toys Into a Relationship

While some people may not be entirely familiar with the idea of using toys during partnered sex, anyone who already uses a sex toy for solo masturbation can probably imagine the pleasurable twist they can add. Sex toys are the perfect way for fun-loving couples to increase intimacy while further exploring their relationship. The introduction […]

How To
10 Easy Ways to “Work” on Love

This Labor Day, let us be reminded that love takes work. Here are 10 simple things you can — and should — do regularly to keep a long-term relationship or marriage happy and satisfying: 1. Do something new together. Sign up for a continuing education class. Try a new sport. Go see a concert or […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Ex Is Over Me, But I’m Not Over My Ex — Help!

Dear Em and Lo, My ex boyfriend and I were together for a little over 4 years (I’m in my 20s). For the first three years I loved him so much. I put in so much effort. He was the most beautiful, funny and wonderful man. But then things got a little rocky. I felt […]

On Second Thought, When Men Ask About Their Size, Do THIS

A few weeks ago, Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post”If Men Ask About Their Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” His answer? Basically, “Yes, tell him the truth gently, with helpful tips thrown in.” Recently reader Dave took a wee exception to this:  Well you ONLY tell him […]

Why Men Ask You About Their Size (& How You Should Answer)

Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?“: When a guy asks this question, there could be a lot of reasons for asking: 1. He might want to compete against other guys (“Am I better than other guys?”) […]

Your Call
Your Call: My Husband Doesn’t Go Down on Me Anymore

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband doesn’t go down on her anymore — by leaving […]

How To
Oral Sex Skills: How to Go Down on HIM

Plenty of people hesitate to go down on a man, either because they’re insecure about their skills or they just don’t enjoy it. But many, many guys would give their non-dominant arm for a regular dose of oral — a lot of them would even choose it over intercourse. (Though, despite conventional wisdom, there are a […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This time, a woman finds herself married to a selfish lover. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  […]

The Most Chilling Pro-Suicide Texts Angela Carter Sent Her Boyfriend

by Arianna Jeret for YourTango In a landmark ruling, Bristol County (Massachusetts) Juvenile Court Judge Lawrence Moniz has found 20-year-old Michelle Carter guilty of involuntary manslaughter in the death by suicide of her then-boyfriend, Conrad Roy III. Roy took his life at the young age of 18 years old via carbon monoxide poisoning while sitting in his […]