Confessions
Comment of the Week: Pro-Choice Means Giving Him a Choice, Too

photo by internets_dairy I’ve always known that I’m in a minority on this issue, but I’m going to voice it anyway. I absolutely believe that if a mother doesn’t want the child and the father does, that she should carry the child to term and he raises the child. Is that “imposing” on the woman’s […]

Pop Culture
Who Gets to Keep the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

Our friend Robin Epstein and her sister Amy Epstein Feldman just wrote a hilarious (not to mention helpful) book called  So Sue Me, Jackass! Avoiding Legal Pitfalls That Can Come Back to Bite You at Work, at Home, and at Play. Over the past few weeks, we’ve published excerpts answering questions like “Can you keep […]

How To
Halloween Is for Role-Playing: 6 Easy Ways to Make It Happen!

If you hate karaoke and public speaking is one of your greatest fears, then the whole idea of acting out your fantasies probably sounds about as appealing as, well, karaoke and public speaking. If that’s you, then you can use Halloween to gently test the sexual benefits of role-playing. It’s the perfect excuse to become […]

How To
How to Have Sex with a Vampire*

photo by dreamglow Don’t eat any garlic for at least 72 hours beforehand. Don’t give blood for at least a month beforehand: you’ll need all your reserves. Get your blood work done beforehand and make sure you bring condoms: while the undead can’t give you any STDs, infections you might have (especially blood-borne infections) can […]

Your Call
Your Call: Is 19 Too Young to Relocate for Love?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m 19 years old, and have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. However, we live 3 hours away from each other.  This hasn’t caused any problems yet, we get to see each other most weekends and the relationship is going great.  We fit together perfectly in all aspects of our […]

Celebrities
CALLING ALL TWILIGHT-OBSESSED MOMS!

photo from Summit Entertainment We’re looking for women, specifically mothers, in the greater NYC area who have a secret or shameless obsession with Twilight — either the books or the movies or the whole Bella-Edward-Jacob industrial complex. We want to know why it’s so compelling, whether it’s a guilty pleasure, and how it’s affected your […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Notice What Women Wear?

photo by Art Comments Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys care about what a woman wears, or is she basically just dressing to impress herself and her fellow females (and perhaps her gay friends)?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): Yes we do. We don’t necessarily care about […]

Research
Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. Even some guys who look for the Best Robot Vacuum cleaner have a good chance of getting some. Having a partner […]

Websites
Blog Snog: Books, Body Language & Best Friend Boinking

A weekly roundup of some of our favorite sex- and love-related posts from various blogs and websites: TresSugar compiles the books seen on Mad Men, and wonders where The Feminine Mystique and Sex and the Single Girl are. College Candy’s critique of Cosmo’s body language decoder — brilliant. A Frisky contributor writes about doing her […]

Research
A Post-Coital Tweet Is the New Cigarette

A new study has found that 36% of people under the age of 35 Tweet, text, or check Facebook right after sex. For the over-35 group, that figure drops to only 8%. Are we totally giving away which side of the 35 dividing line we are located on when we say, Seriously, people? That’s really what you […]

What's Up Doc?
Everything You Need to Know About the Nuva Ring

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once every two weeks. To ask her your own question (not about the Nuva Ring, please), click here. When it comes to hormonal birth control, I get more questions about the NuvaRing […]

Toys
Time Freaking Magazine Covers Green Sex Toys

Earth Angel Hand-Powered Vibe Damn it! Why, or why, didn’t we get off our asses and pitch Time the “Sex and the Eco City” piece in this week’s issue? It’s all stuff we’ve covered before!, on this site and in our 2006 book Sex Toy: An A-Z Guide to Bedside Accessories — but that was […]

Pop Culture
Living Together 7 Years = Common Law Married?

photo by adactio Our friend Robin Epstein and her sister Amy Epstein Feldman just wrote a hilarious (not to mention helpful) book called So Sue Me, Jackass! Avoiding Legal Pitfalls That Can Come Back to Bite You at Work, at Home, and at Play. Over the past three weeks, we’ve published excerpts answering questions like “Can […]

Pop Culture
Halloween Haiku Contest *Deadline Passed*

photo by zenobia joy We’ve teamed up with the UK sex toy store LoveHoney this Halloween to give you the chance to win one of their “Death by Orgasm” vibes: “Experience the most intense ‘La Petite Mort’ with this amazingly powerful bullet! Supplied in a cute coffin case.” It comes in black, natch. So send […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Need More Hot Sweaty . . . Cuddling

photo by Leeni Speaking of casual cuddling: Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: It has been exactly a year since I last had sex. I didn’t intend on taking a vow of celibacy. Like belly button lint and shocking celebrity deaths […]