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I need advice please, particularly male advice. I had a long distance relationship for almost a year. Short story: he freaked out about the commitment and broke up with me. It’s taken me almost 2 years now to finally put all the pieces together and understand why we broke up. We stayed in touch until last April when we stopped talking — he just stopped responding to emails and texts. It was hard but I finally let him go. Then, this past September on my birthday he texted me with beautiful words; I said thank you and we exchanged a couple of words after that. I emailed him a few days later with something really funny and got no response, so I emailed him back and finally told him I was not interested in the birthday-holiday-say-hi kind of thing, so we stopped communicating. But 3 days ago he emailed me at 2 am, just saying hi, and he shared a song (“Lord Is It Mine” from Supertramp*). He also said beautiful stuff about me and my kids…I don’t want to read between lines but this makes me confused. Please help.
— Superstumped
*Lord Is It Mine Lyrics by Supertramp
I know that there’s a reason why I need to be alone
You shown me there’s a silent place that I can call my own
Is it mine, oh Lord, is it mine?You know I get so weary from the battles in this life
And as many times it seems that you’re the only hope in sight
Is it mine, oh Lord, is it mine?When everything’s dark
And nothing seems right
There’s nothing to win
And there’s no need to fightI never cease to wonder at the cruelty of this land
But it seems a time of sadness is a time to understand
Is it mine, oh Lord, is it mine?When everything’s dark
And nothing seems right
You don’t have to win
And there’s no need to fightIf only I could find a way to feel your sweetness through the day
The love that shines around me could be mineSo give us an answer, won’t you
We know what we have to do
There must be a thousand voices
Trying to get through
