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Pop Culture 6 months ago
Happy International Trans Visibility Day (March 31st)! Unfortunately, it's not all balloons and supportive hugs: Trump's list of discriminatory actions against the transgender community so far is too long to list in a…

Confessions 6 months ago
A dad friend of mine, who’d read my recent piece on making sexual assault in the news a teachable moment for kids, forwarded me the following tweet from…

Dear Em & Lo 6 months ago
Dear Em & Lo, I am a 28 year old man. I am a virgin and want to stay a virgin until I get married. I began masturbating when I was…

How To 6 months ago
Every year, March 8th is International Women's Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we've come along way, baby…

Dear Em & Lo 7 months ago
Dear Em & Lo, I've never been…


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