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Toys 5 days ago
Deck your halls! Jingle your bells! Spin your dreidel! Stuff your stocking! The holiday-themed euphemisms can go on for days – 12 days to be exact.…

Dear Em & Lo 2 weeks ago
There is a long-standing debate over whether porn is good for you or bad for you. We received two questions from straight women decidedly in the "bad for you" camp.…

Special Issue 1 month ago
A round-up of all our fall-related tips & tricks. For example, do not stick any body parts in the cornucopia and do not attempt to stick a decorative gourd up anywhere!

Dear Em & Lo 1 month ago
Dear Em & Lo,I'm 34 and I've never had a boyfriend. I was molested as a child and raped as an adult. I've never had consensual sex.…

Special Issues 2 months ago
A round-up of our best Halloween-themed posts to get you in a hot, gothic mood.


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What to give the tensed up person in your life: Burn the candle, blow out the flame, and drizzle.

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This shiny PVC tape only sticks to itself, so it doesn't pull hair or leave any sticky residue. Perfect for the novice and the fetish aficionado alike.

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