Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I’m a 40-year-old woman who has become friends with a 20-year-old co-worker. He is like a younger cousin or family member to me, we get along great and have a lot in common. But lately I have started having dreams about him that have me kind of freaked out! We are usually out with a group of friends somewhere (a club, a restaurant) and having friendly discussions with everyone, when he will suddenly grab me and start kissing me! Then things progress from there and we are in some kind of room having sex — and not just “regular” sex, either…wild and crazy sex. He’s also very commanding and decisive about what he wants to do, which isn’t anything like his real personality. I have been so embarrassed now whenever I see him as this is all I can think about! What is going on in my mind?

Lauri: Oh my…your inner cougar is surfacing! Or is it? Only you know for sure if you desire this young man. But I’ll go on the assumption that you do not since you were concerned enough about these dreams to write in to me. Experiencing a sex dream about someone you know can certainly be a head scratcher… and in some cases, a vomit inducer! But remember, sex dreams are rarely about a physical union you want but rather a psychological union you need. You mentioned that you get along really well with him, so odds are you have in fact “come together” with him on some level. Interesting though that he is very commanding in the dream. Let’s delve into that! Is he in charge of some project at work? Has he taken control of any problem or issue and shown that he really knows what he is doing? Whatever the case, your dreams are very likely marking the consummation of your psychological union or perhaps a meeting of the minds at work, which is a good thing! So worry no more and keep these dreams as your happy little secret.

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