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Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm (Except in This One Case)

Faking, Defined Every woman has faked an O at least once in her lifetime. Pretending to climax is a theatrical art — one that even thespian Keanu Reeves would find challenging to pull off convincingly. There’s a healthy dose of heavy breathing with much melodramatic “oohing” and “ahhing” sprinkled throughout (all informed by porn and “When […]

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10 Ways to Be Less Competitive with Other Women

Why are women competitive with each other? Evolutionary psychology says that it’s to protect their wombs from physical harm, while feminist psychology claims it’s because they’ve internalized the patriarchy. A writer in the Times this past weekend posited a different explanation: “We aren’t competing with other women, ultimately, but with ourselves — with how we […]

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5 Great Date Ideas That Don’t Require Drinking

By Jarone Ashkenazi for YourTango With fun dates likes these, who needs liquid courage? Where should you go on your first date with someone new? That’s the dreaded decisions daters across the world face. Daters want to pick a place that sets the right mood, plays to your’s or your date’s interests, and creates fun […]

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The 8 Do’s and Don’ts of Opening Up Your Relationship

Dr. Alan, a psychologist specializing in the way people interact with ‘progress’ in general and technology in particular, describes himself as educated beyond his competence and opinionated beyond his education. Besides being an MVP commenter on EMandLO.com, he is currently working on a book about how increased healthy life expectancy will influence family structure.   Should you […]

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How to Have Sex with a Vampire*

1. Get your blood work done beforehand and make sure you bring condoms: while the undead can’t give you any STDs, infections you might have (especially blood-borne infections) can make for an unpleasant experience for your vampire.* 2. Don’t eat any garlic for at least 72 hours beforehand. 3. Don’t give blood for at least […]

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6 Easy Ways to Tell If Your Guy Has Commitment Issues

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango You’ve fallen, but he’s still overlooking the drop. At the core of so many failed relationships is one simple thing: balance. Or rather, the lack thereof. How many relationships have ended because one partner wanted more or less sex than the other? Or because one person didn’t seem to care as much […]

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How These 8 Preschool Skills Can Improve Your Love Life

A recent article in the Times explained why the social and sharing skills that you learn in preschool help you succeed in the workplace — and probably more so than any of the test-taking skills you learn later on in your school life. Reading that piece, we realized that the exact same thing could be […]

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3 Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)

By Gia Ravazzotti for YourTango Let’s skip to the good ones, ladies! Online dating has taking over the world! Seriously, it has become one of the preferred methods for meeting a potential mate and grows ever more popular every year. It makes sense really, considering that it’s accessible, convenient and relatively quick to meet someone online. People use online […]

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How to Get Over a Breakup When YOU Did the Dumping

by Chelli Pumphrey for YourTango Don’t beat yourself up over breaking up! Sometimes a breakup can be a slow, shaky, untangling of two lives, like a sticky cobweb wrapped around your fingers. You just can’t shake it off. Sometimes a breakup is a quick, deep cut, and you’re left reeling from the sudden pain and […]

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8 Ways to Tell If You’re in a Healthy Place on the Jealousy Spectrum

Jealousy is rarely a black and white issue, and it is rarely objective, either. What counts as jealous behavior to one person might be viewed as sweetly protective by another. And what counts as a pleasing lack of jealousy to one person might be viewed as indifference by another. Similarly, what might be viewed as an […]

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The Best Sex Tips from a Stand-Up Comic

by Michael Hollan A lot of people think that stand-up comics must get laid a lot. Well, no. Most stand-up comics are pulling in normal numbers. People think that because we perform, and are funny and always meeting new people that we must live like rock stars. Nope, we live like traveling salesmen. It’s not […]

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10 Steps to Getting Casual Sex Right

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!) […]

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6 Ways to Stimulate Your Senses During Sex

1. Wear a Blindfold You could light some candles or twist in a red lightbulb to alter the visuals. It would be a good idea to go for candles, especially the ones that are fragrant. Many studies reveal that scent can have an impact on sexual experience. Though you may not notice it instantly, you […]

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7 Kinds of Porn Your Guy Probably Watches (and Deletes from His Browser History)

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango Let’s just say we delete a LOT of browser history. We live in a gilded age — a time in which pornography flows freely and unimpeded thanks to the internet. Now, any desire can instantly be fulfilled via 1080p stream in the comfort of your own home. Whether you close […]

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5 Super Nice Ways to Say “You’re Not Good in Bed”

Sex is so easy, even chickens with pea-sized brains can do it. (Speaking of: If you’re looking for a hilarious and enlightening post about how, exactly, chickens do it, go here. You’re welcome. Em has a coop in her backyard with eleven hens and one very lucky rooster, and even she learned something.) But if sex is […]

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When Anger Is Helpful in a Relationship…And When It’s Not

Count to ten before you speak, we’re often told, especially when fighting with a partner. Take a deep breath and remember you’re talking to someone you love, the advice goes. Being angry means you’ve lost control, the theory goes. But is there ever a time when you shouldn’t count to ten — when a little anger […]