Personal Essays
Personal Essays
How One Couple Gets Closer to Go Further… In Bed (Part 1 of 2)

sponsored post ***Originally Posted on May 2nd, 2013*** Introducing Our “Get Closer Go Further” Project We’re thrilled to team up with Durex for this “Get Closer to Go Further” project, which encourages committed couples to do just that: build intimacy in order to explore more sexual territories together. And when we say “go further,” we’re not just talking […]

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4 Reasons Why It’s Good to Take Turns During Sex

photo via flickr Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the importance of taking turns… I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in having this ever-present fantasy of succumbing to someone else completely — someone who’ll give me a […]

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Confession: My Love-Hate Relationship with the 69 Position

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the pros and cons of the 69 position… I will, with ease and without shame, say that 69 is a profoundly silly position. Sure, it sounds great upon first listen. We […]

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Top 6 Toys I Fantasize About

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to say about the sex toys she wishes were a part of her collection… 1. Whipsmart’s Pleasure Swing A sex swing sounds like a combination of two of the greatest pleasures in life: playing […]

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In Defense of the Slut

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here). She has this to stay about the slut stigma… How many times have you heard people say, “If she wasn’t such a slut…” or, “She’s kind of a slut, but…” or, “I can’t believe she’s slept with […]

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Confession: My Top 6 Favorite Lubes

Uberlube is for sale on Amazon A few weeks back, our contributor Jewely Hoxie wrote a post for us titled Top 6 Reasons to Love Lube. This week, our favorite lube cheerleader is back with some specific recommendations. Jewely studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz; you can read her blog here. The best embarrassing […]

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Top 6 Reasons to Love Lube

photo via flickr In addition to being a cheerleader for lube, our contributor Jewely Hoxie also studies Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz (read her blog here): One of my favorite movie quotes of all time is from My Big Fat Greek Wedding: “My dad believed in two things: That Greeks should […]

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The REAL Reasons Why Yoga Improves Your Sex Life

photo via flickr Is your New Year’s resolution to improve both your health and your sex life? There are lots of ways you can do this. Semenax can improve sexual performance as well as produce bigger loads of semen. Eating more aphrodisiacs can boost libido as well as provide more nutrients. Yoga could be also […]

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Open Letter: Here’s What Romney Thinks Of Your Gay Son

Our friend Nathaniel Frank is the author of the book Unfriendly Fire: How the Gay Ban Undermines the Military and Weakens America. He was an expert witness in two Constitutional challenges to “don’t ask, don’t tell,” whose success helped end the policy. Yesterday he spoke on the phone with the parents of his best friend about how […]

Confessions
8 Rules for the Third Wheel in a Threeway

Our contributor is a college student who wishes to remain anonymous. She has some sage advice to impart on the topic of three ways… When people give warnings about threeways, it’s usually directed at couples who are bringing in a third party. Threeways are not a relationship-building exercise, they tell you. Are you sure your relationship can handle […]

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In Defense of the “Woman-Child”

photo via Flickr I (Lo here) consider myself a pretty hardcore feminist. And I love Jezebel.com. So I expected their “Woman-Child” article today to be just my kind of internet candy. My best guess about its focus? The media’s obsession with infantalizing women to make them seem cuter, softer, more likeable. But it actually turned out to […]

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Comment of the Week: The Older Men Get, the Less They Talk Sex w/Friends

This week, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Know Whether Their Male Friends Are Circumcised?” reader Johnny said: The older men get, the less we discuss sex with each other. Whether it’s because we’re more mature, we’re pretending we’re more mature, or because we’re more experienced and there are fewer questions and […]

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Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Three years ago, our then intern Kristine deGuzman, who was a junior at UC Berkeley at the time, wrote a Confession for this site about how she and her boyfriend were taking a break from each other while she studied abroad. Kristine is now a Cal grad and a Senior Social Media Specialist at a […]

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Confession: I’m a BDSM Beginner

Lelo’s “Etherea” Silk Cuffs A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I think I might be kinky. I know, I know: These days, who isn’t? With Fifty Shades of Grey refusing to budge from the bestseller list and Rihanna singing about how chains […]

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Confession: 4 Things Emma Goldman Taught Me About Sex

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has this to say: Emma Goldman: 1800’s anarchist, philosopher, and rebel women. She believed in free-thinking, free-love, and birth control. The woman wasn’t so much of a suffragist, seeing as she once said, “If […]

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Confession: I Lied About Being a Virgin

photo via flickr A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: When I got to college, I was still carrying around my V card in my back pocket. By then, I had read erotica, watched porn, masturbated, made out furiously with high school boyfriends, […]