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Top 10 Things We Will Tell Our Daughters About Sex

The two of us accidentally bred on the same schedule, which means we both have six-year-old daughters. We have long joked about the hazards of being both sex writers and parents (and in a small town, too, no less): What will they say at the P.T.A.? What if our daughters stumble across one of our […]

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How to Give a Great Couples Massage

When Denis Merkas, founder of “Melt: Massage for Couples,” asked us to review his online video series, we admit we were a bit trepidatious: images of sensitive ponytail men came to mind, the sound of cheesy tantric sitars filled our imaginations, and we thought we could suddenly smell a hint of patchouli in the air. […]

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A Fantastic Guide to Couples Massage (with No Sensitive Ponytail Men!)

When Denis Merkas, founder of “Melt: Massage for Couples,” asked us to review his online video series, we admit we were a bit trepidatious: images of sensitive ponytail men came to mind, the sound of cheesy tantric sitars filled our imaginations, and we thought we could suddenly smell a hint of patchouli in the air. […]

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8 Ways to Overcome Anxiety About a Gynecologist Visit

photo via flickr Nervous about going to the gynecologist? That’s a bummer. Okay, that’s all the sympathy you’re going to get from us, because you’ve got to get over it. Your health is at stake, especially once you’re sexually active — and there’s nothing more important. We all have to do things we don’t like: […]

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The 5 Stages of Sexual Grief

photo via Flickr Making huge stupid mistakes in bed — we’re talking, like, of epic proportions — is a universal experience. People from all walks of life do dumb things they regret in the morning — it’s an inevitable part of life and love. But while there is no right way to mourn your sexual […]

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5 Reasons to Wear Lingerie (Especially If You’re Not the Type)

LELO’s Halter Camisole (on sale now for half off) We are not ones to put more undue pressure on women (or men for that matter, though they could use some more time in high heels) to live up to some unrealistic ideal of style and beauty. If you’re comfortable in an old worn oversized cotton […]

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10 Things That Feel Better Than Getting Revenge On An Ex

The new movie The Other Woman, starring Cameron Diaz, Leslie Mann, and Kate Upton, features three women who join forces to get revenge on the guy who, it turns out, was sleeping with all three of them (and married to one of them). But while creative, collaborative revenge on an ex makes for catchy movie […]

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What the Pets In Your Online Dating Photo Mean

Scientific research about whether you should include a pet in your online dating profile pic is, not surprisingly, rather flimsy. So we decided to put together our own report on featuring pets. The following guide explains the message conveyed by different kinds of pet in your online dating pic. Depending on the image you want […]

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Top 10 Relationship Tips from the IRS

photo via Flickr We’ve taken this year’s Top 10 Tax Time Tips from the IRS and tweaked them for your dating life (the original document is at the bottom of this post). Because sex is valuable, and money is pretty sexy.  Plus, the IRS likes to refer to itself in the third person, just like […]

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That Pesky C-Word

“The ultimate sexist put-down: the prick which lies down on the job. The ultimate weapon in the war between the sexes: the limp prick. The banner of the enemy’s encampment: the prick at half-mast. The symbol of the apocalypse: the atomic warhead prick which self-destructs. That was the basic inequity which could never be righted: […]

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10 Yoga Skills That Will Boost Your Sex Life

photo via flickr Alexandra Joy is the author of the new book The Woman’s Secret: A Novella with Lessons, which uses storytelling to demonstrate how Eastern teachings can transform every aspect of your life. Today on EMandLO.com, she shares 10 ways that yoga can add value to your sexual experiences: When I mention to people […]

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Hot & Cheap: How to Make a Home-Cooked Meal for a Dollar!

Being able to cook is traditionally seen as sexy, but frugality? Not so much. But when you save money on food, think of all that leftover moolah you can apply to romantic dinners out, just-because gifts, and sex toy upgrades! When we think of sexiness and frugality, we think of Jack Murnighan. We used to […]

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Bad Boob Day? Here’s What Normal Breasts Really Look Like

photo via Flickr Chances are, you’re pretty familiar with your own breasts, and you’ve probably had fleeting glimpses of breasts belong to your mother/sister/close friend in a fitting room. But the breasts you get to spend the most time staring at — whether you want to or not — belong to movie stars and Victoria’s […]

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Top 7 Love Lessons Learned from The Bachelor (Juan Pablo, Ep 1)

photo courtesy of ABC/Rick Rowell Now that Juan-uary has begun, each week we’ll be bringing you the five most important love lessons you can learn from each episode of The Bachelor on ABC. With each episode guaranteed to be the most dramatic EVER (per usual), this season should prove to be a wildly educational ride. And […]

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The Married Person’s Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions

Have sex with your partner more than you watch porn/read erotica on your own. Trim your toenails like you did when you were single before a date. Kiss your partner on the lips for at least 5 seconds every day. In the next 6 months, be sure to spend at least one night in a […]

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6 Ways to Seduce Your Husband

photo by Ezyan Y. Let’s face it: seducing guys ain’t that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. But when you’re in a long-term committed relationship, the challenge is making your moves new and memorable. What follows are seven classic approaches to seduction that you can make your own […]