Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. Think of it […]
photo via Flickr A lot of people refuse to talk dirty because they are afraid of sounding stupid (see this week’s Wise Guys about what NOT to say in bed). But you don’t have to say things out of character, throw around more four-letter words than Gordon Ramsay, or speak in pornographic detail in order […]
Lelo cuffs Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.” This is a kinder, gentler BDSM that just focuses on the simple wrist restraint of a partner who gives you their permission to do so first. Anything more complicated and you’ll need to school yourself thoroughly in the safety aspects of bondage, either with […]
photo via Flickr Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun. But it’s not all fun and games like naked Slip n’ Slide — there […]
photo by SS.ma You know the basic idea of sensory deprivation, right? You limit one or more senses, and the others gets stronger. Limit everything but touch, and your orgasm will feel like the center of the universe. You may have done this without even knowing you were enjoying sensory deprivation — when you blindfold […]
photo from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica Conventional wisdom would have us believe that all women need extended foreplay — at least 30 minutes’ worth — to get anywhere near an orgasm, which may be one reason why quickies aren’t embraced more. The thinking goes that women, on average, take a lot longer to […]
photo via CollegeCandy.com We constantly hear how we should avoid getting into a sexual rut and keep trying new things. But just as important is to develop some good sexual habits — things that you should be engaging in on a regular basis with your partner (whatever regular means to you) — now and always. […]
photo by ValtheKid In the first book the two of us wrote together, a sex manual called The Big Bang, we included the throwaway line “multiple orgasms for men — sorry, that’s a whole ‘nother book.” (What can we say, we only had a few hundred pages to work with, and it seemed to us […]
photo by love janine A good cuddle after a vigorous mating ritual is what separates us from the animals. To suggest that you have personal space issues or are sensitive to over-stimulation after you’ve had your orifices intimately explored is downright rude. A minimum of fifteen minutes of quality embracing/back tickling/hair tousling is in order, […]
photo via Flickr Sneaking into the unoccupied conference room on your lunch break…leaving dirty Polaroids under each other’s keyboards…doing it on your boss’s desk while he or she is in the Hamptons. Dipping your pen in the company inkwell may not be exactly encouraged in the modern workplace, but most of us have dipped at […]
Massage as foreplay is one of those sex tips that “everyone knows” — but few people know well. Be honest, how many times have you actually massaged your partner for longer than a few minutes of shoulder squeezing in front of the TV, or a half-hearted swish over their back with your palms? Anything more […]
photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]
photo via Flickr We’ve all been there: you reach the bottom of your grande iced decaf soy mocha and you know, in your heart of hearts, that you’d rather see Oprah and Jerry Springer thumb-wrestling naked than go on a second date with this person. How do you end things before they’ve even really officially […]
photo by squeakymarmot After more than a decade in the sex writing biz, we have seen our share of sexual gimmicks come and go. Today, we would like to highlight ten perennially under-praised sex acts. Think of it as under-doggie-style! (See yesterday’s post for the Top 10 Most Overrated Sexual Acts). Using lube. It’s not […]
photo by hyku After more than a decade in the sex writing biz, we have seen our share of sexual gimmicks come and go, many of them vastly overrated. Below are the top ten sexual acts that, while they may be more substantial than gimmicks, continue to get more accolades than they deserve. Also, check […]
photo by pasakaru So you’ve met that perfect someone, the man or woman you suspect could be the illustrious “One” — but they’re inconveniently dating someone else. How do you plead your case? First, are you absolutely convinced this person is your soul mate? Because if you’re just in it for the sex, then stealing […]
