Personal Essays
Personal Essays
Confession: Romance, Schromance

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I lost my virginity beside a pool with a guy whose age was less than the number of people he had slept with. Before penetration he said, “I don’t want anything serious, okay?” I nodded. […]

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Confession: The Drawbacks of Long-Distance Dating

photo by mtkopone Our contributor Ryan, who blogs at Student Loans for Beer Money, has a confession to make: Most summers I look forward to an endless string of parties at which I usually get hammered and hook up with some stranger. I’m a 19-year-old guy — how else am I supposed to pass the […]

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Confession: I Don’t Do Handjobs

photo by permanently scatterbrained Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I consider myself a sexual adventurer. As a bisexual who has posed naked for photographers, enjoys threesomes, and has a collection of vibrators, I think I deserve the label. However, there […]

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Confession: I Lab-Tested Some Lubes

Durex Play More lube Our contributor Lisa has a confession to make: It’s not every day you get to take a new line of lube for a test drive — that’s one of the perks of contributing to EMandLO.com. I had sworn off the stuff for a while after a bad experience with the mint-flavored […]

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Confession: Weight Gain Killed My Sex Life

Our contributor is a student at an East coast university. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… There’s something about the heat of the summer sun that makes everyone a little more frisky, a little more excited, a little more promiscuous — it’s the season of bathing suits, little clothing, late-night dates, sex […]

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Confession: My BF and I Created a Fantasy Suggestion Box

photo by hashmil Our contributor, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: My boyfriend and I used to fuck like bunnies.  And I don’t mean we were cute and cuddly in bed — I mean, we did it like they do on the Discovery Channel.  We couldn’t keep our dirty little paws […]

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Confession: I Just Saw the Craziest PDA!

photo by The Prophet Yesterday’s Wise Guy PDA question reminded Chris DiClerico of something he saw this past summer. He swears on everything that is holy that this is true: I had to go to midtown for a business meeting in a building on 51st and 6th Ave. I arrived about 20 minutes early, so […]

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Confession: I Thought “Christian Sex Columnist” Was an Oxymoron

photo by kevindooley Our contributor Kristine deGuzman, a junior at UC Berkeley, has a confession to make: When I was a sophomore in college, I drooled over the idea of writing the “Sex On Tuesdays” column in the The Daily Cal, UC Berkeley’s main newspaper. I applied for the job at the end of my […]

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Casual Sex Confessions in 5 Seconds Flat

In their hook up issue (Jul 2-8, 2009), Time Out New York launched a new sex and dating section. One fun feature you can access online is called “One-Night-Stand Confessions” where New Yorkers reveal one thing they’ve always wanted to tell a past fling. This being the age of Twitter, these revelations aren’t eloquent personal […]

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Confession: I’m Gonna Keep My (Hypothetical) Baby

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: “If you got pregnant, you’d have an abortion — right?” Max asked during our customary post-coital cuddle a few months back. My mind began to spin. For the seventeen years I had been a virgin, […]

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Confession: Porn Makes My Heart Grow Colder

photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com Our contributor, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make (in response to the recent confession by another contributor, “Porn Makes My Heart Grow Fonder“). I don’t like porn.  Which strikes me as strange since not only do I love sex, I study it. But there’s just something about porn […]

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Confession: Alcohol Saved My Sex Life…But Hurt It Too

photo via freeparking Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: All my sex life, I’ve had a love-hate relationship with alcohol. Not because it provokes the desire but takes away the performance, as Shakespeare once said. No, my problem is that it […]

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Confession: I Had a Friend with Benefits…and Drawbacks

photo by rileyroxx Our contributor Ryan, who blogs at Student Loans for Beer Money, has a confession to make: I learned a lot of tough lessons my first year of college. For instance, cucumbers aren’t the only things that can be pickled (thanks to maniacal levels of on-campus alcohol consumption). And, more importantly, having a […]

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Confession: My Top 5 Pornos for Us Ladies

Comstock Films makes great couples’ porn A couple of weeks ago, our friend confessed that porn makes her heart grow fonder — especially when she watches it with her boyfriend. So we asked her to compile a list of her top favorite porn movies or genres for watching with a partner. We’re constantly hearing from […]

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Confession: Porn Makes My Heart Grow Fonder

photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com One of our female friends currently in college, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I watch porn. That’s right, I said it: Porn. It’s a word that, among females especially, can be pretty taboo. Watching porn is simply not the ladylike thing to do; it’s for ball-scratching, horny […]

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Confession: My Boyf and I Are Going on a Break

photo by Matt Seppings Our contributor Kristine deGuzman, a junior at UC Berkeley, has a confession to make: I’m studying abroad in Spain over the summer, and my boyfriend and I have decided to go on a break, because, as he puts it, “This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. When else are you […]