We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.
Dear Em & Lo,
I’ve been dating someone for about a year now. Last week I caught him entertaining another woman at his house. We’ve talked since then and he’s admitted he wouldn’t have told me had I not caught him and that he’s been unsuccessful in having “normal” relationships. He’s come clean about the situation and says he wants an opportunity for his actions and his words to sync.
He’s hinted at childhood trauma, but admits he’s never dealt with it in a healthy way. There’s a significant age difference between us and this is my first real “adult” relationship. I’ve always been taught that infidelity is a dealbreaker and to walk away no questions asked. It’s been much harder than I imagined. When he came clean I didn’t feel as much anger as I expected, only sadness and disappointment. How do I move forward? Am I naive for believing that there could be something worth salvaging?
— Stuck on Him
