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Happy Indigenous People Day!

We’ve signed the petition to turn Columbus Day into Indigenous Peoples’ Day (and you should too!). In honor of the holiday, we’re spending this Monday rereading Eduardo Galeano’s Memory of Fire. Tune in tomorrow for new fun stuff.

Sexual Health
LELO’s Revolutionary Condom Is Now Available at…TARGET!

LELO, the award-winning Swedish designer of luxury pleasure objects, has done it again — it’s brought style and innovation to the bedroom, this time with a revolutionary new condom that maximizes sensation without sacrificing safety called the HEX. And now it’s at your favorite neighborhood TarJay. The crowdfunding campaign of the re-engineered condom outstripped all expectations: […]

How To
3 Key Things to Do When Your Guy Can’t Get It Up

By David Wignat for YourTango You’re in bed with your man. You’ve done all your sexiest moves. You smell great. You look fantastic. He hasn’t reached middle age yet and he hasn’t been drinking, so his machinery should be in working order. But when you head down south, you suddenly realize his penis is about […]

Do It Tonight
Top 10 Unsexy Things That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Improving your sex life isn’t always about switching positions or adding more lube or reading erotica (though those things can certainly help, too). Enjoying some sexy videos from sites like ujizz.xxx can also give you some new ideas about how you can spicy up your sex life. But today, here are ten everyday things you […]

How To
10 Clues You’re a “Side Chick”

by Kristal Talley No one wants to be “the other woman” (if you do, then you’ve got problems). But chances are you’ll end up a side chick at least once in your life, whether you realize it or not. There are clues to look out for. No single sign automatically mean he’s cheating on someone with you […]

Personal Essays
Considering the 30-Day Sex Challenge in a 16-Year Marriage

by Jennifer Munn My husband just suggested to me that we have sex every day for thirty days. Seriously. SERIOUSLY? When it comes to sex, while I definitely like it (and have even been known to love it on occasion),  I don’t frequently seek it out. In fact, sometimes I pointedly dodge it. Why do I avoid thee? Let me […]

Celebrities
“Cult” Not “Author” Is the JT LeRoy Documentary You Should Watch

Laura Albert is pretending to be someone she’s not. Again. Or maybe she’s telling the truth this time. That’s the problem when someone lies so much to so many people: when should we start believing their stories about wolves? You probably know Albert better as JT LeRoy, the abused, abandoned, HIV-positive, gender-bending, teenaged, trick-turning, literary […]

Celebrities
“1000s and 1000s of Shades of Grey” — Erotica by Donald Trump (Watch the Trailer!)

Donald Trump has his tiny little hands in a lot of different ventures, not just real estate: there’s Trump Steaks, Trump Wine, Trump University, and now, fortunately for us, Trump Erotica. Perhaps an odd choice for a presidential candidate, but when has Trump ever done the done thing? In the hopes of winning over the vast “mommy porn” […]

Pop Culture
Our Snarky Summary of the First Presidential Debate

On Monday, September 26th, 2016, at 9pm EST, the Republican and Democratic nominees for President of the United States, Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton respectively, came together for their first debate (transcript here). About 100 million people watched the Gathering, when a stroke of a sword would release the power of the Quickening. In the […]

How To
8 Signs He Really Truly Digs You

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango It’s more than words…. So you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you? Welcome to the club. I am 33 years old and when it comes to figuring out if a guy likes me, I’ve definitely considered sending a guy a note asking him to check yes or […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Her Long-Time Fling Have a Future?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  So I have been talking to a guy […]

Personal Essays
On the 10th Anniversary of Our DIY Wedding

Ten years ago today, Joey and I were married — untraditionally, feministically, fantastically. By the spring of 2006, we knew we were going to be together, but we weren’t sure we were going to exchange vows. As a little girl, I had never dreamed of my big day with a big white dress and a […]

How To
Top 10 Tips for Erotic Spanking

Hand-to-bum contact, if you can pull it off without cracking up (heh, we said crack), is a great way to add some kinky flavor to your next sesh. It’s intimate, it’s saucy, and — when compared to, say, a whip or a flogger — it’s safe for newbies to try out. Also, one study found […]

Toys
The Cadillac of Vibrators Gets a 21st Century Upgrade

By Louise Lagris for Bust Magazine What’s the Buzz? In the world of vibrators, the Magic Wand is legendary—a veritable Excalibur wielded by many a thrill-seeking Lady of the Lake for top-notch clit stimulation. Hitachi, the original manufacturer, removed its name from the gadget in 2013, but even 48 years after it was first introduced […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming My Husband Is Cheating with Someone I Don’t Like

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’ve had this dream twice now that my husband is cheating on me with a […]

Dear Em & Lo
I Hate My Big Vulva/Vagina — What Can I Do?

Dear Em & Lo, I am always self-conscious when it comes to wearing jeans and tight dresses and it’s all because of my big vulva/vagina. This really affects my self-esteem really bad and I think that I am not normal. My vulva/vagina looks big and when I push in too if it, I can already […]