My Boyfriend and I BOTH Dreamed I Cheated on Him

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Me and my boyfriend had the same type of dream. In mine, I cheated on my partner while I was in another dimension and when I got back to the real world I confronted him and told him I had just cheated on him and he was ok with it. I liked it because the guy who I cheated on him with made me feel something he has never made me feel.

Then my boyfriend had a similar dream: I cheated on him but this time he wasn’t ok with it. I was cheating on him with a person he never knew and it was in our room. As I wouldn’t open the door for him he smashed my door down, came in, and ripped the guy off me. He then continued to beat him till he was unconscious. After that he woke up.

Lauri:  Having the same or a similar dream on the same night as someone close to you is very common. If you scroll through the archives of this column you’ll see that people write to me about it quite a bit. It happens because the two individuals who share the similar dream are also sharing a similar waking life experience and their subconscious minds respond to it in a similar fashion.

You and your boyfriend both dreamed that you were cheating, which tells me something is causing your boyfriend to feel left out or like a third wheel in your life. What is it that you are giving your time and attention to that does not involve him? What is it that you are doing that is causing him to feel “cheated” out of the time and attention from you he feels he deserves?

In your dream he was okay with it but in his dream he was not. That’s a big clue that, in real life, this is something you may not realize he has a problem with. Also, in your dream you were cheating with someone from another dimension and his it was someone he never knew. This is a huge indication that this new element in your life that you are into but he isn’t is something that neither of you expected or neither of you are familiar with.

So here’s what to ask yourself if you haven’t figured it out yet: What is new and different in your life? What is going on that seems to be changing your world or changing your perspective or behavior? THAT is the culprit and that is what is not sitting well with your boyfriend. These similar dreams happened because it is the elephant in the room between the two of you. I think an open and honest discussion is in order.

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