Advice
Movies
The 17 Most Annoying Aspects of the “Fifty Shades” Story

By Lindsey Kupfer for YourTango.com Here’s a refresher course on how messed up Fifty Shades really is. The Fifty Shades Of Grey movie hype is growing as the movie’s release date (February 13) gets closer, which means a barrage of media attention is once more on the mommy porn flick. And that means I get to hear endless apologies and explanations […]

How To
How to Use a Flogger Like Christian Grey

The following is from our very own naughty dictionary, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Bolded words signify individual entries that appear elsewhere in the A-to-Z section of the book. Anything with a tie icon  indicates an activity or prop mentioned in the Fifty Shades series (symbolic of the famous woven tie Christian Grey uses to restrain Anastasia Steele). […]

Special Issues
The Valentine’s Day Issue

The Best Valentine’s Day Present Ever! The top 10 reasons why our new book 150 Shades of Play makes the best Valentine’s Day present ever!   10 Easy Ways to Be More Romantic Romance is contagious. So the best way to get your partner to be more romantic is to be more romantic with them first. […]

Dear Em & Lo
What to Do When You Have Zero Sex Drive

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year old woman in a relationship with a wonderful guy — we’re celebrating two years together this month. We’re pretty serious about each other, but we have a serious hangup: I have very little sex drive. I’m not sure if he’s got an average drive or […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Boyfriend and I BOTH Dreamt About Demons

“The Nightmare” by John Henry Fuseli Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader tells Lauri: My boyfriend and […]

Advice
11 Ways to Spot the Narcissist in Your Bedroom

by Elizabeth Stone for YourTango  | Among the types of people who can really muck up your life, there is the toxic narcissist. Narcissism exists on a spectrum. These self-centered folks can simply be more focused on themselves, or it can cross over into an actual personality disorder. Either way, narcissists are legendarily difficult to have relationships with. So, if […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Are Blue Balls Real?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What do blue-balls feel like… is it really that painful, or that big a deal? Is it even a real physical phenomenon?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Blue balls are the testicular equivalent of a migraine headache. They are […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Camping, Not Glamping)

photo via @BachelorABC (the caption read: “One of these virginities will be taken tonight.” Brilliant.) The fourth episode of ABC’s “The Bachelor” featured more Emmy-worthy editing, from the tiny violins playing over Ashley “Kardashian’s”s tragic princess soliloquy to the close-up shots of her weave to the sad, foreboding music behind Jillian’s tasteless “Who Would You Rather” […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: What Positions Work for Big Belly, Small Penis?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have finally met […]

How To
10 Ways Blizzards Are Good for Your Love Life

photo via Flickr It’s Snowmegeddon! Batten down the hatches! Get the gas for the generators! Scratch the eyes out of the mom at the grocery store grabbing the last of the organic milk! And then take a deep breath, relax, and look at the beautiful snow from another perspective: namely, from a place of love. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Downgrade a Booty Call to Friend (No Benefits)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been reading […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Can Women Pick Up Men in Bars?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What are the best ways for a woman to pick up a man in a bar? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Well, what kind of bar is it? If it’s a sports bar, talk about the game of course! I’m […]

Pop Culture
Top 10 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Wedding “Crashers” Episode)

photo via ABC’s The Bachelor Last night’s third episode of ABC’s “The Bachelor” continued the season’s new style of embracing the humor along with the histrionics (often via some heavy-handed editing at the women’s expense). For examples of this trend, see Ellen DeGeneres’s recent season recap: Is Chris Soules so boring that the producers’ only recourse […]

How To
4 Ways to Make Your Marriage Last in the 21st Century

by Gwendolyn Bond-Upson for YourTango | photo via flickr Did you know that the rate of infidelity in American marriages has not increased in 20 years, even though attitudes toward adultery have loosened in the past 40? More facts, in addition to tips for success are included in the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project’s […]

News
Em & Lo Named Among the Best 15 Sexperts of 2015!

  Yes, we just referred to ourselves in the third person. We can do that now, because apparently we’re officially among the Top 15 Sexperts of the Year! (And we’re only 14 days into it!) We’re rubbing virtual elbows with the likes of Dr. Ruth, along with long-time friends and respected colleagues Jamye Waxman and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Choose Masturbation Over Sex?

photo via Flickr  Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Do guys ever choose masturbation over sex? If so, why?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure. Plenty of times. Sometimes my wife isn’t around and I don’t really feel like waiting. Or sometimes she is around but really tired, or […]