Advice
Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week – Lips Don't Have a Monopoly on Kisses

photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Deny Masturbating?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do some men — single, married, in relationships, straight, gay, bisexual, etc. — deny masturbating?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Are you serious? I’ve never met a man who […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss?

photo by Ezyan Y. We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em […]

How To
Don't Be a Beauty Fascist When It Comes to Dating

Let’s imagine that you’re in a relationship with someone you really dig: they’re witty, wise beyond their years, and well versed in the ways of amore. Plus, their table manners are impeccable. And yet, you find yourself in the midst of what might be termed a moral conundrum. Your dilemma? This special someone is severely […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe, Is It Safe to Take Viagra Just for Fun?

Once a month, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, answers your questions on male sexual health. To ask him your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, Is there any harm in taking Viagra recreationally? — Asking for “a friend” Dear AFAF, So you wanna be a stud? Read this section before the erection… […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Should I End This Relationship?

photo by indy_slug Dear Em and Lo, I have been dating this guy for about 3 years now. All was great, with the occasional mishaps for a while. We were more compatible than I ever thought possible. Unfortunately within the past 9-12 months things have not quite been right. Little things about him bother me […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – How Much Do Men Dish About Sex with Their Friends?

photo by elsie esq Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How much detail do guys go into with their friends about their sex lives?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): In my experience, men brag about sex, or a partner’s sexual skills, but very rarely go into any detail. From […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Will This Online Fling Lead to Anything?

Share your advice for this reader in the comments section below… Dear Em & Lo, There is this guy I have been talking to online. Both of us feel that vibe in the air and we know we are so right for each other. He has girlfriend, but still he enjoys his time and shares […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate, Is the Term "Loose Women" Literal?

photo by http2007 Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Is a large clitoris an indicator that she’s been sexual active many times in the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Did I Put Out Prematurely?

photo by Frank H Dear Em and Lo, OK, here’s a complicated question, but I’m not fond of roadside psychics, so you guys are my best bet. I’ve been carrying on a flirtation with a local bartender for about a month now. The other night, the flirtation led to drinks at a neighboring bar, and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Can I Stop Men from Ogling Me?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “By nature, I’m very curvaceous: big boobs, thin waist, round butt. Aside from wearing a tent, I can’t really hide this fact. So, how do I get men to treat me like a human being and not a sex object?” To ask […]

Pop Culture
Books: How to Find Good Porn

scene from Five Hot Stories by Erika Lust We’ll admit it: we know very little about porn. In theory we know that there’s better porn out there than the crap our male hallmates used to watch in college with their doors “accidentally” left open. Especially now there are many online websites such as hdpornvideo that […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call – How Should You Move While On Top?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I need […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Can a Sexy Attitude Really Compensate for a So-So Body?

photo by pat hawks Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”I know that often a sexy attitude is sexier than a great body, but I can’t help feeling self conscious all the same. I’m 20 years old and though the general silhouette of my body is good (enough to […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation – I Was Connected to a Hot Guy By a Silver Cord

photo by Helga Weber Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had this dream twice in one week and I would like to know what it means. I am […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Enjoy Receiving Oral More?

photo by Bogdan Suditu Dear Em & Lo. I’m a 48-year-old female and I can’t seem to achieve an orgasm during oral sex. It all seems too intense. However, I don’t have any problems when masturbating. I feel it is like… someone else scratching your feet… it tickles. If I do it myself, it doesn’t […]