BDSM
Pop Culture
Erotic Deathmatch: Fifty Shades of Grey vs. 150 Shades of Play

Jamie Maclean is the founder and editor of the Erotic Review Magazine, an intelligent and artsy London-based website dedicated to sex (and NOT the US-based Yelp for escorts of a similar name). So how could we all not get on?! And then he called us “New York’s coolest sex therapists” and said that our new […]

How To
5 Ways That Getting Kinky Can Improve Your Relationship

photo via flickr Our new book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, is on sale now. Here are five good reasons to check it out and get your kink on… 1. INCREASED TRUST It takes a boatload of trust to let someone tie you up or clamp your nipples or spank you […]

News
Last Chance for Great Last-Minute Gift: 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

This is your last chance to give the MOST entertaining/romantic/kinky/informative, funny/sexy/outrageous holiday gift of the year! Our how-to companion piece to Fifty Shades of Grey titled 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is available now on Amazon. Here are the remaining deadlines you have to beat to get your copies by Xmas: THU 20TH: Last full day […]

How To
Top 10 Kinky New Year’s Resolutions

As we say in our book (now on sale for less than ten bucks!), 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, “Being kinky might mean bringing props into the bedroom, it might mean acting out dark fantasies, it might even mean wearing something absolutely ridiculous — but then again, being kinky might just […]

Pop Culture
The 12 Days of Kinkmas

In honor of the holidays and the recent publication of our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, we wanted to put our own special sexy sacrilegious spin on a Xmas classic. Enjoy: On the 12th Day of Kinkmas my true sub gave to me… 12 Crops a Cracking Disciplinary devices […]

Pop Culture
Top 15 Kinky Celebrities

Of course celebrities like to get kinky — why would they do it vanilla style when they can don an outfit, get into character, and make a scene? And in the bedroom, there’s always an appreciative audience, (and, one would hope, no bad reviews). When you think about it, it’s just surprising more of them […]

Books
H Is for Hardware Store… For All Your Kinky Shopping Needs

The following is an excerpt from the “H” section of our new A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! A hardware store is a one-stop shopping center for all your BDSM needs. Who […]

How To
10 Simple Steps to Fifty-ize You Sex Life

We just did an interview with Cosmopolitan about our new book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, and they turned it into a nifty little 10-step program for introducing BDSM into the bedroom: 1. Talk Dirty to Him “Bringing up S&M with your partner can be shocking and awkward. A great way […]

Books
How Headphones Can Kink Up Your Sex Life

photo via flickr The following is an excerpt from the “H” section of our new A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Ear plugs aren’t just for construction workers and insomniacs, and noise-canceling […]

News
Last Week for FREE Shipping of 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

Kimono Robe by LELO Your holiday shopping days are dwindling, so don’t miss out on the chance to give your lover a naughty stocking stuffer, your best friend a companion piece to her dog-eared copy of Fifty Shades, or your coworkers something to blush over during the Secret Santa exchange at your holiday office party! […]

How To
S Is for Spanking

The following is an excerpt from the “S”section of our new A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Spanking is hand-to-tush contact, which many consider more intimate and less scary than any other […]

Pop Culture
Check Out Our New Site: 150ShadesOfPlay.com

Our brand new book 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink just hit the streets! And it’s got a beautiful  new website to go with it! 150ShadesOfPlay.com has some excerpts (including the book’s full introduction), lots of very flattering praise (from the likes of TIME’s Joel Stein and sex educator icon Betty Dodson!), and […]

How To
A Spanking Fetish Without the Cliche Emotional Baggage

photo via flickr We don’t often read the “Modern Love” column in the New York Times Sunday Styles section these days — when you’ve been in the biz as long as we have, it’s easy to get cynical and feel like you’ve heard every story about love and sex there is to tell. But  this […]

Dream Interpretation
My Fiance Bit Me Like a Vampire in His Sleep

image by King Chimp, from “Nosferatu” Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I am big into pain while having sex, and I am also into vampires. My fiance and I […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love Can’t Conquer Kinky Differences

Reader Xena said the following in response to our post “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla — Is the Relationship Doomed?” The LESS likely scenario is that the vanilla partner will have bsdm needs awoken in them with time. But I would not bet on that scenario. The other very important thing to note is that even […]

Research
Just How Different Are Men’s and Women’s Fantasy Lives?

Are women’s and men’s fantasy lives vastly different, or are they basically the same except for a few variations on theme and frequency? We suppose it depends on who you ask and what they believe. Because people’s prior beliefs about how women and men approach sex can really affect the way they interpret research on […]