Say what you will about the literary merit of E.L. James’s Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, but you can’t deny the sexual curiosity they’ve ignited, the sexual knowledge they’ve imparted and the sexual delight they’ve given, where most readers are concerned. The result has been a boon for the sex toy industry, thanks to all […]
Reader Lila wrote the following in response to the recent article “Confession: I’m a BDSM Beginner” on our site: I love this post! That was MY life a few years ago. While I found my kink differently than you, I am still a professional woman with an education and a life. I just needed to […]
Lelo’s “Etherea” Silk Cuffs A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I think I might be kinky. I know, I know: These days, who isn’t? With Fifty Shades of Grey refusing to budge from the bestseller list and Rihanna singing about how chains […]
photo via flickr We pride ourselves on knowing all the sex lingo — and where there isn’t lingo for something we’ve observed in the world of sex and dating, then we make it up ourselves. For example, three terms we coined in our book Rec Sex: An A-Z Guide to Casual Sex are benched (the […]
This may be sacrilege to say, but we can’t seem to muster any interest in reading the new, best-selling erotica novel that everyone’s talking about, Fifty Shades of Grey. After all, even the author admits that it’s not that good! For SM erotica, we’d rather stick with a classic like Story of O. Yeah, yeah, […]
photo via DailyBillboard We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. I’ve recently started seeing a woman I […]
Etherea cuffs from Lelo available at Eden Fantasies 1. Regular handcuffs can be mighty uncomfortable after a few minutes–in fact, the police-issue kind can actually cause nerve damage. But Velcro cuffs are built for comfort. 2. Sure, there’s something sexy about undoing your own or your man’s tie and co-opting it for your own kinky […]
photo by John Brawley If you want to feel like it’s the very first time, then it’s important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can’t get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being “experimental,” but the occasional awkward moment is a […]
Lelo cuffs from Eden Fantasys Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend and I have great sexual chemistry and things have been going really well both inside and outside of the bedroom, but there’s one small issue: we’re both on the sexually submissive side. Though it is not usually an issue, it is clear that we’d […]
Lelo cuffs Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.” This is a kinder, gentler BDSM that just focuses on the simple wrist restraint of a partner who gives you their permission to do so first. Anything more complicated and you’ll need to school yourself thoroughly in the safety aspects of bondage, either with […]
photo by Mickey Sick Dear Em & Lo, My wife and I have been together just over five years. The other night while having sex, she asked me to slap her in the face. Repeatedly. I was raised not to lay a hand down on a woman, and now I am being asked to. We […]
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’m a girl who likes it rough. Not a little bum-smack here, a little hair-pull there, but slap-me-across-the-face, black-bruises-for-two-weeks rough. The […]
photo by Jason Clapp Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: “Abby, you never seem to get angry,” my coworker said to me the other day. I hate that scumbag, but all I knew how to do was smile. If I was in a […]
Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs One of our favorite toy creators, Lelo, just launched a line of sensual accessories for glamourous bondage experimentation, i.e. cosmopolitan kink, tantalizing teasing, filthy rich restraint, etc. The high-quality materials (which come in cherry red, deep purple, or black) and even higher price tags will make your dabbling in BDSM seem […]
Share your advice for this reader in the comments section below… Dear Em & Lo, I recently started dating a wonderful man. He’s smart, and interesting, and handsome and the sex has been delightful. But not outstanding. But we’ve been working a fairly brisk learning curve and we can’t seem to get enough of each […]
photo via Rachel_Kramer_Bussel “Spank Tuesday” continues with this question from a reader: Dear Em & Lo, How do I ask my husband to spank me? It is many years since I was spanked. Do I just ask him or buy a paddle as a Valentine’s gift or what? — Red-Cheeked Wannabe What should Red-Cheeked Wannabe […]
