Booty Calls
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How Often Do Booty Calls Become Girlfriends?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Booty Call Wants to Ditch the Condoms

photo by Alaskan_Dude Dear Em & Lo, I was celibate for the first 20 years of my life, so considering that, it was surprisingly easy to jump into bed with a guy who lives in my building…every few nights for the last two months. We have a nurturing and adventurous sexual relationship, I think, and […]

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Your Call: How Can I Tell If My Friend with Benefits Is Falling for Me?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’m 24 […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Can I Give My Booty Call Some Ground Rules?

photo by Helga Weber Dear Em & Lo, I have a friend with benefits who also has other friends with benefits. One of them called me on the phone last night and was threatening me. I called him right up and he apologized and said he would talk to her about it, but should I […]

How To
8 Rules of the Booty Call

We’ve all been there: Out on the town, feeling good after a cocktail or five, you don’t want to go home but you can’t stay where you are, and no one has made you any offers you can’t refuse yet. So you fish out your phone to daringly (read: desperately) see if one of your […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Can I Dump a Booty Call By Text?

photo by sidewalk_flying Dear Em & Lo, Until last week I had been dating a lovely man who would make an excellent casual partner, but was not much chop for heading toward an actual relationship, which is my preferred modus operandi (he has agreed with this analysis). The problem was, as a journalist he was […]

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Dear Em & Lo, Did I Put Out Prematurely?

photo by Frank H Dear Em and Lo, OK, here’s a complicated question, but I’m not fond of roadside psychics, so you guys are my best bet. I’ve been carrying on a flirtation with a local bartender for about a month now. The other night, the flirtation led to drinks at a neighboring bar, and […]

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Dear Em & Lo, Is Physical Attraction in Friendship a Gift or a Curse?

photo by Vivian Chen Dear Em & Lo, Is physical attraction a gift or a curse? I’m writing this because a friend and I have been friends for a year. Let’s just say we’ve had our share of up and downs. From us being friends with benefits to helping him deal with his crazy ex-girlfriend. I […]

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Dear Em & Lo – When Undefined Relationships Go Wrong…

photo by Katie Tegtmeyer [Note to readers: This advice letter is loooong but it was impossible to edit down without affecting the story. And also, we felt it was only right that you got to read the whole long messy debacle that we responded to!] Dear Em & Lo, I am a 26-year-old woman and […]

How To
Best Walk of Shame Accessory Ever

Okay, so the marketing materials for these shoes don’t specifically mention walks of shame, but we are not afraid to point out the obvious. Because the only thing worse than a walk of shame on a Sunday morning in a glittery short dress is doing that walk of shame in a pair of heels that […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Love Sex! Does That Make Me a Slut?

Dear Em & Lo, Lately, my need for sex has been UNQUENCHABLE. It’s reached the point where I’ve roped two booty calls into alternating nights. Am I a slut for doing this? I’m worried that I’m becoming addicted to sex — and I’m only 23! I’ve always had a high sex drive but I’ve never […]

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When Your Booty Call Wants to Spoon

Picture from our debut column in Metro For some people, casual sex is no longer the sole goal of a booty call; casual intimacy has come into (the) play. We call this The Free Trial: Some people can sample cheese in Whole Foods and keep on shopping, while others immediately purchase five pounds of super-aged […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Had a Friend with Benefits…and Drawbacks

photo by rileyroxx Our contributor Ryan, who blogs at Student Loans for Beer Money, has a confession to make: I learned a lot of tough lessons my first year of college. For instance, cucumbers aren’t the only things that can be pickled (thanks to maniacal levels of on-campus alcohol consumption). And, more importantly, having a […]

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Dear Em & Lo: He Says He Just Wants to Hook Up But Doesn't Act That Way

photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, I met this guy who is really sweet and nice.  He is 20 and I am 21.  We’ve hung out a few times and I am starting to like him.  Then, I saw him at a fraternity party the other night (although he does not go to my […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Got My Period on a Booty Call

  Dear Em & Lo, For the past two weeks I have been sleeping with a guy I met here at college. The boundaries of our relationship have been well-established: late night phone calls for no-strings-attached sex. Nevertheless, I want to keep this thing going. However the last time we were together I had one […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Ugly Guys Make Better Booty Calls

Our contributor is a student at an East coast university. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… I’m not attracted to attractive guys. Those Burberry-wearing, BMW-driving, weight-lifting, business-studying, fraternity hunks just don’t do it for me. At the end of the night, I know I’m booty-calling my chunky, red-haired, 800-dollar-car-driving, engineer boy — […]