photo by love janine A good cuddle after a vigorous mating ritual is what separates us from the animals. To suggest that you have personal space issues or are sensitive to over-stimulation after you’ve had your orifices intimately explored is downright rude. A minimum of fifteen minutes of quality embracing/back tickling/hair tousling is in order, […]
photo by sidewalk_flying Dear Em & Lo, Until last week I had been dating a lovely man who would make an excellent casual partner, but was not much chop for heading toward an actual relationship, which is my preferred modus operandi (he has agreed with this analysis). The problem was, as a journalist he was […]
photo by ValtheKid Kateswist comenting on the post “Is Casual Sex Really That Great“: I think there is a lot to be gained from casual sex, with this single requirement; you have to be in total control of your situation. Be picky and choosy. Be upfront with the man saying, “hey this is just sex. […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I haven’t […]
photo by Helga Weber Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What makes for a memorable (in a good way) one night stand?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): Often the fun part of a one-night stand is in the spontaneity, […]
photo by trec_lit Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been sleeping with this guy for about three weeks, and our semi-non-relationship began the night after he broke up with his girlfriend of 8 months. We used a condom the first couple times, but then we stopped. I’m on the Pill and while I’m not worried about […]
photo by e.esders It may not be news to any of you ladies out there who’ve enjoyed the thrill of a no-strings-attached hook-up, but for those who buy into the evo-psych pop notion that women are only interested in high-status resource providers rather than hotties (i.e. the opposite of men’s supposed eternal motivations) there’s a […]
The movie The Social Network scored eight Oscar nominations last week, but that’s not the only way in which social networking, lower case, is scoring. According to a poll conducted by Men’s Fitness and Shape magazines (not exactly the ivory towers, we know, but the sex and dating research coming out of there is often just […]
photo by balinto Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If a guy’s partner told him that he could have a one-night stand with a stranger, no questions asked, and it was guaranteed that his partner wouldn’t freak out about it later — would most guys take their partner […]
photo by SYD_Rahim Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “If I sleep with a new guy and everything went great — long talk beforehand, great chemistry, lots in common, orgasms all around — when can I reasonably expect a call from him? And will the number of days […]
photo by Frank H Dear Em and Lo, OK, here’s a complicated question, but I’m not fond of roadside psychics, so you guys are my best bet. I’ve been carrying on a flirtation with a local bartender for about a month now. The other night, the flirtation led to drinks at a neighboring bar, and […]
photo by e.esders Before we started writing about sex, we had no idea that so many scientists and researchers spent time so much time studying our sexual proclivities. These days we have trouble thinking of anything sexual that hasn’t been qualified and quantified and written up in a science journal. Take the age-old issue of […]
We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy: I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical […]
photo by Pink Sherbet Photography A study by Bill McCarthy of the University of California and Eric Grodsky of the University of Minnesota found that teens in romantic sexual relationships have similar school experiences to virgins. Meanwhile, students who engage in NON-romantic sexual activity (hook-ups, friends with benefits, etc) were found to be more likely […]
photo by Vivian Chen Dear Em & Lo, Is physical attraction a gift or a curse? I’m writing this because a friend and I have been friends for a year. Let’s just say we’ve had our share of up and downs. From us being friends with benefits to helping him deal with his crazy ex-girlfriend. I […]
photo by SFBNess If you’re planning on having a new guest over to “look at your etchings” for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there’s a next time: Only invite a guest over when you won’t have to rush out the door the next morning. Warn any roommates that you will be […]
