Communication
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: When Should I Tell Men About My Lesbian Past?

photo by Sexy Fitsum We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should I Lie to Virgin BF About My Body Count?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What’s Bad Dirty Talk?

photo by Tim Morgan Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Is the word “penis” a buzz-killer during dirty talk? What other words/phrases should be avoided?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Penis penis penis penis penis! It’s just such a funny word, isn’t it? Penis! And laughter is not exactly […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Hates Kissing

Dear Em & Lo, My man, who I love and adore, blah blah blah, does not like to kiss. This is not to say we don’t peck: we do, as after bringing up the lack of kissing to him earlier in our relationship (around year one of three), he did up the level of G-rated […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Do You Determine If It’s Love or Lust (Without Ruining It)?

photo by batega We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

How To
6 Sexual Habits Everyone Should Keep

photo via CollegeCandy.com We constantly hear how we should avoid getting into a sexual rut and keep trying new things. But just as important is to develop some good sexual habits — things that you should be engaging in on a regular basis with your partner (whatever regular means to you) — now and always. […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Communication Is Overrated

photo by david.nikonvscanon Johnny, commenting in the post “Your Call: BF Used to Have Sex on Table Where We Eat”: No good comes of “telling each other everything.” That’s’ a recipe for past-sex-life-resentment (unless, like me, you’re a perv who gets off on hearing these things; most people…aren’t that way). Some things are best kept […]

Books
5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness in the Bedroom

photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]

Books
7 Personality Types to Avoid When You’re Dating

photo by Carlos Madrigal In a world of Facebook “likes” and online dating questionnaires that seem to narrow down the soul-mate search to a simple (and yet oh so witty!) checklist of wants and needs, it’s easy to focus on the superficial ways in which we do or don’t connect with each other. And granted, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Guy Is Too Fat for Sex

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I genuinely […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Can’t I Climax from Oral?

illustration via Foxtongue We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – What’s the #1 Relationship Deal-Breaker for Men?

photo by B_Rosen Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What is the number one deal-breaker for guys in relationships?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Sexual compatibility, which could include chemistry, quantity, styles, kink-acceptance, and/or willingness to explore, monogamy versus polyamory. […]

Research
Scientifically Proven First-Date Questions

image via OKTrends Regular readers of this blog will know that we are mildly obsessed with the dating research blog OKTrends (it’s attached to the dating site OKCupid) — check out our past coverage of OKTrends on the myth of gay evangelism, the (consistent, predictable) way we lie online, misconceptions aboutĀ online profile photos, and the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Like Eye Contact During Sex?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys like looking into their partner’s eyes while they’re having sex, and while they’re climaxing? Why or why not? And if a woman is with a man who never looks her in the eye during sex, what does that mean?” To […]

How To
How to Boost a Woman’s Sexual Self-Esteem

photo by jamiesrabbits Men’s Health asked us to contribute some ideas to a piece they did recently on boosting women’s sexual self-esteem. Since the majority of the advice we slave over for this kind of thing often ends up on the cutting room floor, we like to offer it up here for you in all […]

News
The Most Important Invention of the Year

Forget green energy and an iron man suit for the military — the most important invention of 2010 is software that detects sarcasm. (Just checking to see if the software is up and running yet.) According to Time magazine, theĀ Semi-Supervised Algorithm for Sarcasm Identification — developed at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem — can pick […]