Intercourse
Confessions
Comment of the Week: Why It’s Okay to Ask, Did You Come?

In response to our post “The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed,” reader Walt Whitman wrote the following. And we have to say: he makes an excellent point! I take minor issue with #10. [“Did you come?”] I think it’s a bit romantic to presume that one’s partner will simply know whether the […]

How To
The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed

photo via flickr If we had to distill our entire body of sex advice into one word, it would probably be this: communicate. Before sex, during sex, after sex — speak up, people! It’s the only way to get what you need and want, and to make sure that your partner is getting what they […]

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Dear Dr. Kate: Can the Cervix Get Hurt During Intercourse?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions every few weeks on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, What does it feel like when a man’s penis hits the cervix during intercourse? I think it’s […]

Personal Essays
Confession: The Top 10 Reasons to Love the Missionary Position

photo via Failblog.org One of our college contributors, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Everytime I check out Cosmo, look at Men’s Health with my boyfriend, or go to the sex aisle at Barnes and Noble, I see hundreds of very creative (and sometimes gravity-defying) ways that I “should” be having […]

How To
5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Who Has to Work Harder During Sex, Men or Women?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Who has to work harder during sex: men or women? Why?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): I know for a fact men have to work harder just to have sex in the first place. you can see […]

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Dear Dr. Kate: Can You Get Pregnant Without Intercourse?

photo by Marina(im.back) Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Can you get pregnant without having actual intercourse? And if so, how? — Curious Georgina […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Top 10 Ways I Disguise Love Noises

photo via Flickr A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, confesses her favorite ways to keep things under wraps, aurally speaking: One of my favorite quotes of all time is an uncharacteristically understated gem of advice from Kurt Vonnegut: “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim […]

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Dear Dr. Kate: Intercourse and Tampons Both Hurt Me

photo by mistress_f Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, After several unsuccessful attempts at having intercourse (due to pain), I talked to my doctor. […]

How To
6 Rules for Outdoor Sex

photo via Flickr Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun. But it’s not all fun and games like naked Slip n’ Slide — there […]

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Dear Dr. Vanessa, Will Intercourse After a Dry Spell Hurt?

photo via Flickr Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, I haven’t had sex in over 8 months. When I finally do have intercourse […]

Advice
In Praise of the Quickie (And Quickie Erotica)

photo from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica Conventional wisdom would have us believe that all women need extended foreplay — at least 30 minutes’ worth — to get anywhere near an orgasm, which may be one reason why quickies aren’t embraced more. The thinking goes that women, on average, take a lot longer to […]

How To
6 Sexual Habits Everyone Should Keep

photo via CollegeCandy.com We constantly hear how we should avoid getting into a sexual rut and keep trying new things. But just as important is to develop some good sexual habits — things that you should be engaging in on a regular basis with your partner (whatever regular means to you) — now and always. […]

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Dear Dr. Kate: I Can’t Orgasm, What’s Wrong With Me?

photo by Janine Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’m beginning to wonder if I’m unable to have an orgasm. I’ve been sexual with […]

How To
Top 10 Most Overrated Sex Acts

photo by hyku After more than a decade in the sex writing biz, we have seen our share of sexual gimmicks come and go, many of them vastly overrated. Below are the top ten sexual acts that, while they may be more substantial than gimmicks, continue to get more accolades than they deserve. Also, check […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Like the Sounds of Sex

images via beautifulagony.com Our contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: You constantly hear about how men get off just from the sound of their partner’s moans and groans — there’s a reason that […]