Marriage
News
Gay Married Couples Refuse to Lie on Taxes

photo by janet calcaterra RefuseToLie.org is an effort to take a stand against the federal government’s refusal to recognize gay marriages across the country. As it is now, the IRS calls for gay couples who are legally married in states that recognize the union to file as “single” — and some people aren’t going to […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Would You Think of a Woman Proposing?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Would most men be cool with a woman proposing marriage to them? (assuming they’re in a serious committed relationship where marriage has become an unspoken expectation for both parties).” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Expose Myself to My Imaginary Crush

photo from the Guardian UK Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Here’s my dream: I’m married to a very old and wealthy man that I do not love, and […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m a White-Picket-Fence Feminist

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: My armpits are hairy. I study gender and sexuality. The Birkenstocks in my closet are held together by duct tape. If it were the sixties, my bra would probably be burning in the town square (if women […]

News
2nd Annual Unmarriage Until Gay Marriage Ceremony

For the second year in a row, the Reverend Billy and the Church of Life After Shopping will be celebrating this Valentine’s Day weekend with an un-marriage ceremony for straight married couples who support gay marriage at The Bethesda Fountain in NYC’s Central Park on Sunday from 1 – 2pm. The idea is “no marriage […]

News
I Can Has Gay Wedding

We usually hate anything that anthropomorphizes cuddly animals in some inanely cute way, like with tuxedos or having them work at a desk  or some shit like that (you know, the kind of stuff your mom forwards to you and her entire address book, NOT bcc’d). But we can’t resist this particular case, since it […]

Vids
We’re in a Ted Talk! (Sort of)

If you’re a faithful reader of EMandLO.com, then you know we love us a good Ted Talk. So we were thrilled to discover that the two of us were in one! Well, just a fleeting picture of us, but we’ll take what we can get. Our old boss, Nerve.com-founder Rufus Griscom, went on to found […]

Research
College Gals Finally Close the Marriage Gap

As recently as the ’90s, Em was horrified to hear her college roommate say that she was at school to get three letters: MRS. It was said kind of tongue-in-cheek… but not completely. The ironic thing was that back then, having a college degree actually meant that a woman was less likely to get married…and […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Became the Mistress of My Boss’s Son

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I have been having the same dream for about two weeks now, nearly every night. Let me start from the beginning… I work […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: Dreaming of My Dearly Departed Husband

photo by mrsraggle Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about love and sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My husband passed away this past January and since then I’ve had a lot of dreams about him. […]

Websites
New Wedding Mag for Same-Sex Couples

photo by HarmonyWeddingPhotography.com “Equally Wed” is the new online magazine for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender couples who are tying the knot (legally or not). It’s got the typical bridal magazine stuff that just feeds the Nuptial Industrial Complex — like fashion, beauty and fitness items with tips from experts, trends and products. (Yawn.) What […]

Celebrities
Sex Degrees of Separation

We, Em & Lo, worked with and are friends with (and Lo was apt-mates with) Jessica Baumgardner, who married Irad Eyal, which is our connection to the new book “Sex Degrees of Separation.” Irad has just turned his unhealthy obsession with celebrity hook-ups into an exhaustive encyclopedia that combines the idea of “six degrees of […]

Pop Culture
Books: You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up

When we reviewed the book The Husbands and Wives Club: A Year in the Life of a Couples Therapy Group a few weeks back, we wrote: “Here are five couples who reject — albeit under the firm hand of a skilled therapist — the notion that there are only two acceptable narratives when it comes […]

Vids
Geekiest Marriage Proposal Ever

Warning: only hardcore nerds — or those with a soft spot for hardcore nerds — will find this YouTube footage (below) touching. Game designer Anders Howard, with the help of his friends, designed a video game to propose to his girlfriend Steffany; he got friends and family together for a launch event of the game […]

News
Illinois State Lawmaker Makes a Personal Case for Gay Marriage

Last week, Illinois lawmaker Deborah Mell spoke on the state House floor to announce her “bittersweet” engagement to her girlfriend of six years — “bittersweet” because she’ll have to go next door to Iowa to tie the knot instead of doing it in the state where she grew up, where she now represents 100,000 people […]