Naughty and Nice
Pop Culture
A Line-by-Line Take Down of “Baby, It’s Cold Outside”

The song performed in the 1949 musical “Neptune’s Daughter” ’Tis the season to be sexist, with the “traditional” Xmas pop played on an eternal loop, reinforcing old gender stereotypes about boys only wanting cowboy boots and guns while girls insist on walking, talking dollies. There’s the infernal Love, Actually movie which, despite its charming British […]

How To
5 Ways to Stay “Koselig” If You’re SINGLE This Winter

Last week we introduced you to the awesome Norwegian word koselig, which means a sense of coziness. According to a Fast Company article, koselig is “like the best parts of Christmas, without all the stress. People light candles, light fires, drink warm beverages, and sit under fuzzy blankets.” And according to recent research by a Stanford […]

What Is the Etiquette of Saucy Holiday Gifting?

At what point in a relationship is it acceptable to give a gift that is sex-related — a high-end toy, perhaps, or a saucy costume or, say, a beginner’s guide to kink* (to offer a completely random example…)? After you’ve met each other’s parents? After you’ve met each other’s a-holes? After you’ve shared last names? […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is a Saucy Love Ring a Good Gift for a Dude?

Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Would a really nice love ring (a.k.a. c*ck ring) be an appropriate holiday gift for a woman’s new sex partner, boyfriend or husband?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): Definitely! I mean, you’re pretty much giving him the […]

LELO’s Pleasure Sets: For Someone Who’s Been Naughty AND Nice

This post is sponsored by LELO* We are firm believers in giving saucy presents at the holidays — and we don’t mean raunchy tacky underwear that gives you an embarrassing rash. No, we mean the kind of gift that keeps on giving, like a high-end vibrator or a sensual suede flogger. Of course, not every […]

What’s the Worst Present You Ever Received from a Partner?

Occasionally on this site, we ask you guys a nosy question and you can share your answer in the comments section below. Feel free to share your age, gender, relationship status, sexuality, etc., if you feel that it’s relevant to the answer. This week’s Question of the Week: What’s the worst/most inappropriate/most disappointing gift you’ve […]

Dear Em & Lo
Oops! I Slept with a Co-Worker at the Office Holiday Party

Dear Em & Lo, I slept with a co-worker after our holiday office party. We were both very drunk, and while I don’t regret it, I don’t want anything further with him. Unfortunately, he’s giving me all the signals that he’d like for us to continue what was, for me, just a one-night thing. To […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What’s a Good Holiday Present for a Man?

Advice from three of‘s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s a good holiday present for 1) a guy you’ve just started dating (sleeping with), 2) a guy you’ve been exclusive with for a year or so, 3) a husband? To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married Straight Guy […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should She Dump Him Before or After Xmas?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is a Striptease a Good Last-Minute Gift?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the question, “If your partner gave you a serious striptease with a serious striptease face and cheesy music, would it really be the best present ever or would it be kinda weird and uncomfortable?”: Straight Single Guy (Max): A serious striptease requires two things. […]

How To
How Not to Regret Your Holiday Office Party in 4 Easy Steps

photo by iLoveButter We’ve both worked from home for more than five years, which means that we’ve been deprived of the Curb-Your-Enthusiasm-esque pleasure-meets-pain of holiday office party shenanigans. (We did make a festive trip together to the local Christmas tree farm, but there was no Xerox machine there for us to disgrace ourselves on.) So, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Can I Give a Sex Toy as a Present?

Dear Em & Lo, Is it ever okay to give your partner a sex toy as a holiday present? Making my list, checking it twice, –Toys R Us Dear TRU, Yes! But. It can’t be just any sex toy, it can’t be just any packaging, and it can’t be just any partner. That said, a […]