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10 Quick Lessons from “Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue”

I consider myself a hardcore feminist (I’ve even got the T-shirt), one who’s attuned to all the gender stereotypes bombarding us daily. I work hard to combat them whenever and wherever I can. But I don’t live in a vacuum, and I’ve found myself falling into traps I thought I could avoid: like talking tougher […]

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Comment: It’s Not Appropriate to Teach Your Kids About Oral

A reader calling themselves “Normal Person” (as opposed to the rest of you perverts, we suppose?) took us to task for our list of “10 Things We Will Tell Our Sons About Sex.” For the record, our sons are both three, so our Serious Conversations with them are currently limited to the importance of sharing toys, […]

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Top 10 Things We Will Tell Our Sons About Sex

Remember how we said we accidentally bred on the same schedule and both have six-year-old daughters? Well, we weren’t kidding about that breeding schedule — we also each have three-year-old sons. So it’s only fair that, after publishing the Top 10 Things We’ll Tell Our Daughters About Sex, we should write a follow-up list for […]

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Top 10 Things We Will Tell Our Daughters About Sex

The two of us accidentally bred on the same schedule, which means we both have six-year-old daughters. We have long joked about the hazards of being both sex writers and parents (and in a small town, too, no less): What will they say at the P.T.A.? What if our daughters stumble across one of our […]

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10 Father’s Day Gifts That Have Nothing to Do with the Barbecue

Crosley Portable Turntable Yeah, yeah, we get it: Dad likes to barbecue meaty things. But did it ever occur to you that maybe Dad likes sensual massage or a little butt play, too? Okay, so these aren’t necessarily the gifts that you’d give to your own father, but for the father of your own children? […]

News
Blurring the Line Between Sperm Donor and Father

We were fascinated by the article in the New York Times this past weekend about the custody battle between actor Jason Patric and his massage therapist ex (and not just because the notoriously publicity-shy Patric talkied to Katie Couric on national television to get his side of the dispute out there). Here’s the story, in […]

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LAST CHANCE to Win a Tess & James Feel-Good Package for Mother’s Day!

sponsored post Your odds of winning this Mother’s Day Feel Good Package made especially for EMandLO.com readers by Tess & James — a new, small batch production company specializing in feel good products made from ingredients that are gentle on the skin, nice to your nose, and free of artificial colors, artificial flavors and preservatives — are ridonkulous! But […]

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The Three Make-or-Break Issues In Every Relationship

Reader Blah Blah Blacksheep (best username ever, by the way!) said the following in response to our post Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed? Money, sex, and kids are the three make-or-break things in every relationship. A spender will have a hard time being with a saver. Two dominants or […]

Pop Culture
Awesome New Book: “What Makes A Baby”

One of our favorite sex educators, Cory Silverberg, just came out with a new children’s book called “WHAT MAKES A BABY: A Book for Every Kind of Family and Every Kind of Kid.” It’s brightly illustrated, awesomely inclusive, and very, very sweet. Plus, it makes the perfect gift for families with little ones (or little […]

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Your Call: Why Can’t You Decide About Kids AFTER You Marry?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Used a Vibrator, Now I Can’t Climax with My Partner

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’m having trouble reaching an orgasm while intimate with my partner. I’m 20 years old, I had a kid 8 months ago, and then became a single parent, so started using a vibrator. I now have a […]

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Comment of the Week: Mommas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Assholes

Johnny, in response to our post “Do Spoiled Children Grow Up to Be Bad Sex Partners?”: I remember when [my younger cousin] was little, he once knocked a rubber ball into a shallow ditch beside the yard. He let out an aggrieved wail, and his mom ran over saying, “Oh no, what’s the problem?” before […]

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Do Spoiled Children Grow Up to Be Bad Sex Partners?

Is it possible that bad parenting could lead to bad sex? Could spoiled and selfish kids grow up to be spoiled and selfish bed partners? A recent article and book review in The New Yorker, “Why are American kids so spoiled?” got us thinking along these lines. The basic question that journalist Elizabeth Kolbert wants to answer […]

Pop Culture
Friends with Kids

photo via FriendsWithKids.com Note: This review is written by Em, who loved the movie Friends with Kids. It’s really hard to talk about the new movie Friends with Kids (written, directed, produced by, and starring Jennifer Westfeldt of Kissing Jessica Stein) without a massive plot spoiler, because the closing line is one of the dirtiest, […]

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On Feminism, High School and Sex — and What Occupy Can Teach Us About All Three

“It’s not easy, in this world, to learn how to navigate our anger and attraction, to learn how to be strong, sexual women and kind, gentle men.” This is a quote from our friend Michelle Chihara’s essay, “Pieces of the Past,” published this week on her blog This Blue Angel. On the surface this essay […]

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When Parents Text

photo via flickr Some people worry that technology is hindering human communication, creating more distance in relationships, but we think When Parents Text is evidence to the contrary,” write co-authors Lauren Kaelin and Sophia Fraioli about their new book. And we think they’re right — amongst the ALL CAPS and multiple exclamation points and weird […]