Relationships
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Should I Break Up with My College Boyfriend?

photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, Some may call us v-card clingers, but my boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. Giving our virginity to each other was not our first first–we were incredibly inexperienced before meeting. Although the relationship began out of lust it has blossomed into much more. He’s […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can You Start from Scratch with an Ex?

Zazzle T-shirt Dear Em & Lo, I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago, due to some problems with the relationship and some awful things that were going on in my personal life — it was just too much stress. I still have feelings for my ex, however, and recently we started talking […]

Your Call
Your Call: Is 19 Too Young to Relocate for Love?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m 19 years old, and have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. However, we live 3 hours away from each other.  This hasn’t caused any problems yet, we get to see each other most weekends and the relationship is going great.  We fit together perfectly in all aspects of our […]

Research
Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. Even some guys who look for the Best Robot Vacuum cleaner have a good chance of getting some. Having a partner […]

Pop Culture
Living Together 7 Years = Common Law Married?

photo by adactio Our friend Robin Epstein and her sister Amy Epstein Feldman just wrote a hilarious (not to mention helpful) book called So Sue Me, Jackass! Avoiding Legal Pitfalls That Can Come Back to Bite You at Work, at Home, and at Play. Over the past three weeks, we’ve published excerpts answering questions like “Can […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: He’s Mr. Perfect. Except for the Sex

photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, This may sound pathetic, but the guy I am dating is perfect for me, I love him and want him as my husband, but I don’t really enjoy our sex life.  It’s two and a half years in and I don’t think it’s going to get much better.  […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Do My Kinky Fantasies Need Therapy?

photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not […]

How To
10 Rules of the Pickup

photo by ezioman It’s not easy to be yourself when attempting a pick-up. But the more out-of-character you try to be, the worse it’s going to go. The goal is to get someone to like you for you. That said, certain things should never be said or done during a pick-up, no matter how “naturally” […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: On Post-Sex Cuddling vs. Sleep

photo by tiffa130 I’ve never understood the general female sentiment (and I am female) that it’s a negative thing to “roll over” and fall asleep after sex. In my opinion, your level of exhaustion/sleepiness is directly proportional to how good the sex was. After a really fantastic session, if I lie perfectly still I can […]

Websites
Dear Old Love…

“Dear Old Love” is a Tumblr blog (celebrating its one-year anniversary) which collects short, anonymous notes to romantic interests both past and present, requited and unrequited. Reading them will crack you up/break your heart/make you wonder if they’re from your own S.O.s or exes: Tuned In — I hope you took acid this past weekend […]

Personal Essays
Confession: The Drawbacks of Long-Distance Dating

photo by mtkopone Our contributor Ryan, who blogs at Student Loans for Beer Money, has a confession to make: Most summers I look forward to an endless string of parties at which I usually get hammered and hook up with some stranger. I’m a 19-year-old guy — how else am I supposed to pass the […]

Pop Culture
The Museum of Broken Relationships

You know that soft, worn, concert t-shirt you’ve been holding on to that was left behind by that asshole who broke your heart with a meat cleaver? Well, now you have a chance to get rid of it once and for all, to make a clean break — and the best thing about it is […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: BF Doesn’t Want Me, But Can’t Live Without Me

Dear Em and Lo, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. A few months ago we took a break and I moved out. I was really having a great time, but he showed up with roses and tears promising everything would change and that he couldn’t live without me. Fast Forward […]