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Dependency Is Actually GOOD for Your Relationship, Here’s Why

Christine Schoenwald for YourTango Who knew!? To all those people who decided to put off relationships and love until they accomplished their career goals: you may have gotten things backward. It seems that when we have a solid base of support from our loved one, we feel free to take bigger chances and gain bigger rewards. This […]

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7 Reasons Erotica Is Better Than Porn

by Vanessa Fox for YourTango “…the moisture is everywhere and the humidity is high. It’s under my skin. The back of my neck is hot under the weight of my long blonde hair that’s quickly losing its glossy perfection and becoming tousled and wavy. It’s that ‘just-fucked’ calling card that makes people take a second […]

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25 Things You REALLY Need to Stop Doing in the New Year

by Brenda Della Casa for YourTango It’s time. It’s likely you’ve started to think about a few New Year’s Eve resolutions for the coming year. If your year-end review has you feeling that this past year was a good one but not exactly the blockbuster you hoped for, it’s time to get serious about making […]

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How to Truly Love Someone Unconditionally

by Michelle Brock for YourTango Is it even possible to find unconditional love? Unconditional love. A love that comes without any conditions, expectations, constraints, or parameters; a love that just IS. A love that is so perfect and so pure that it’s given freely – no matter what. Does it exist? And if it does, is it possible to practice in […]

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How to Avoid “Boyfriend Pedestal Syndrome” (and Save Your Relationship)

by Tristan Coopersmith for YourTango Date him, don’t praise him like a god. I know the case of the pedestal boyfriend all too well. Looking in my own rear-view mirror, I’ve put a lot of guys up on this platform — this very grand, very tall, very lavish untouchable platform, worshipping them for all that […]

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5 Signs He Doesn’t Like You as Much as You Like Him

By Kelly P. Crossing for YourTango You’re dating this cute guy. He’s a real charmer. You like him — a lot. But then you have a disturbing thought when you’re apart: what if you like him more than he likes you?  You want to find out (no, you need to find out), because the answer to your predicament can mean the difference […]

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A Self-Aware Narcissist Explains How to Love Her, Faults and All

We’re not as bad as you think. I don’t know when I became a self-aware narcissist. I mean, I probably was always the narcissist part, but the self-aware bit came one day when I said something self-deprecating and someone told me not to be so hard on myself. My response was, “My self-deprecation is just […]

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10 Ways to Tell If You’re Dating a Narcopath (Narcissist-Sociopath)

They’re a dangerous breed. What do you get when you cross a sociopath with a narcissist? The least funny joke and the worst kind of hybrid: a narcissistic sociopath, narcopath for short. Both a narcissist and sociopath have an inflated sense of how important they are, as well as a constant need for praise and admiration. One commonality between the two is their ability to fool others in order to get […]

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Why You Should Be Polyamorous…With Your Best Friends

I have multiple besties and they all make up the one big best friend of my dreams. Generally, I’m a fairly easy-going person. My life has taught me it’s best to expect less of the people I love than to set my ideals so high that they cannot be met. I know that kind of […]

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5 Great Date Ideas That Don’t Require Drinking

By Jarone Ashkenazi for YourTango With fun dates likes these, who needs liquid courage? Where should you go on your first date with someone new? That’s the dreaded decisions daters across the world face. Daters want to pick a place that sets the right mood, plays to your’s or your date’s interests, and creates fun […]

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6 Easy Ways to Tell If Your Guy Has Commitment Issues

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango You’ve fallen, but he’s still overlooking the drop. At the core of so many failed relationships is one simple thing: balance. Or rather, the lack thereof. How many relationships have ended because one partner wanted more or less sex than the other? Or because one person didn’t seem to care as much […]

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3 Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)

By Gia Ravazzotti for YourTango Let’s skip to the good ones, ladies! Online dating has taking over the world! Seriously, it has become one of the preferred methods for meeting a potential mate and grows ever more popular every year. It makes sense really, considering that it’s accessible, convenient and relatively quick to meet someone online. People use online […]

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How to Get Over a Breakup When YOU Did the Dumping

by Chelli Pumphrey for YourTango Don’t beat yourself up over breaking up! Sometimes a breakup can be a slow, shaky, untangling of two lives, like a sticky cobweb wrapped around your fingers. You just can’t shake it off. Sometimes a breakup is a quick, deep cut, and you’re left reeling from the sudden pain and […]

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7 Kinds of Porn Your Guy Probably Watches (and Deletes from His Browser History)

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango Let’s just say we delete a LOT of browser history. We live in a gilded age — a time in which pornography flows freely and unimpeded thanks to the internet. Now, any desire can instantly be fulfilled via 1080p stream in the comfort of your own home. Whether you close […]

Personal Essays
The Hard Work of STAYING in Love

by Emily Lingenfelser Love is saying I see you, all of you, exactly how you are — and I still choose you. Falling in love isn’t a choice; it’s an irrational chain of events that simply cannot be stopped. It can happen slowly, over time, or quickly in a matter of moments. One glance. One touch. […]

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7 Ways EVERYONE Can Be More Chivalrous (Without Being Sexist)

Treating each other well is a practice BOTH sexes should embrace! When was the last time you felt completely appreciated — the kind of appreciation that leaves no doubt about how fully gorgeous/handsome, dating someone who makes you feel like that (deeply appreciated) is incredibly special … and arousing. And sorry, today’s “no emotions involved,” hit-it-and-quit-it “hook […]