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Why do I romanticize the past?

I am a 26 year old male with a bit of a chip on my shoulder. I’ve never had trouble meeting women or openly expressing interest without being overbearing (well mostly), however I’ve noticed that the last 3 years of my love life have revolved around exes. I not only let people back in my life that probably should’ve stayed gone but also have reached out in efforts to, maybe, mend a wrong I’ve done in the past. Regrets and/or second chances…

Any time I’ve tried online dating or asking people on dates I meet, it always seems forced and not genuine at all. Every time I’ve ventured back into past love affairs or flings, I’ve always gotten hurt as a result. Is there something wrong with me? Why can’t I break out of my comfort zone? Is there something in particular I’m doing wrong or need to improve. Help Please!

— Mike’s Shame

What should MS do differently?
Let him know in the comments below.