A really interesting conversation took place recently in the comments section of our post, “Is It Okay to Use a Vibrator That’s Bigger Than My Boyfriend?” In situations like this, we always tend to advise readers toward kindness, and also to letting the guy take the lead in terms of dildo size. But a reader named Jon chimed in to say that sometimes honesty is preferable when it comes to penis size. “If she likes the bigger toy then just tell him it gives a different feeling to him –- not necessarily better, just different –- and she likes both,” Jon wrote. “He already knows he isn’t huge, so that shouldn’t be too much of a shock to him. Plus, he’d maybe like seeing her pleasured in a way that he can’t do.” To which we replied, seriously? A guy could handle this? And not just supernaturally confident guys? Below is Jon’s response, assuring us that yes, sometimes honesty is the kindest and best way to go…

It’s not just confidence, it’s also a bit of realism. I’m smaller than this girl’s boyfriend and I certainly wouldn’t have a problem with her enjoying the feeling of something bigger. If she’s happy then it has to be a good thing. Better that than her missing out on something because she’s scared of shattering my ego.

Seems to me that girls tend to think they have to walk on eggshells if a guy has a small penis in case she offends him. Sometimes the worry isn’t having a small one it’s wondering what she really thinks – like if she says oh your size is fine does she really mean that or is she secretly wondering how bigger would feel but doesn’t want to tell me. A bit more honesty would be the way around that – something like, everything’s great between us but sometimes I just want to feel something bigger. Do you think some girls would be worried about having that sort of conversation with their guy?

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