Anatomy
Advice
The Unbearable Lightness of Blowjobs

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Popping her cherry” “Swiping my V-card” “Going all the way” All of these phrases — and countless more — connote one single, sexual act: intercourse. Given its reproductive implications, our […]

How To
Em & Lo’s Glossary of Male Sexual Anatomy

Just because male sexual structures are a bit more, shall we say, obvious, does not mean you can forgo the anatomy lesson. There are important parallels between male and female sexual machinery that will help you understand how to best to use what you’ve got on your own and with your partner, especially if your […]

How To
Em & Lo’s Glossary of Female Sexual Anatomy

There’s a lot more than meets the eye when it comes to female sexual anatomy: the waters of that pleasure system run way deep. These parts are not inferior, miniature versions of the male sexual anatomy, but rather equitable, albeit more internal, sexual structures that enjoy stimulation just as much. They simply need the right […]

How To
The Importance of Adult Sex Ed

Before you can create a masterpiece, you have to understand your medium. Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to sex. Which is why it’s important to go beyond the basics you learned back in high school health class and regularly give yourself lessons in adult sex ed. When you know the anatomy of yourself […]

Pop Culture
If You Challenge Gender Stereotyping, Prepare to Be Vilified

Our journalist friend Diane Stopyra recently penned an excellent piece for MarieClaire.com entitled “Dear Parents-to-Be: Stop Celebrating Your Baby’s Gender,” which argued that gender-reveal parties are misguided attempts at fun which reinforce harmful gender stereotypes (and, let’s face it, are just a tad narcissistic). Why pigeon-hole you’re kid before they’re even out of the womb? […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, His Big Penis Caused Pain, Bleeding & Cramps – Help!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I had sex last night with a man who had a larger penis […]

How To
How to Increase Your Chances for Multiple Orgasms

According to Carlyle Jansen of the Toronto-based sexuality shop Good for Her, multiple orgasms are well within your reach! Check out her expert advice for LELO.com on achieving multiple orgasms below. Are you a one-hit wonder when it comes to clitoral orgasms?  Do you, like many of us, experience the intense and sudden post-orgasm “Don’t touch me!” […]

How To
VIDEO: 7 Steps to Gender Equality…IN THE BEDROOM!

  View & share video via YouTube HERE Every year, March 8th is International Women’s Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we’ve come along way, baby! But we’ve got a hell of a long way to go: In 2014 the World […]

Personal Essays
Why You Shouldn’t Be Offended by the P-Word Anymore

At Least When It’s Uttered with Love A friend’s middle school daughter wore a hat to school the other day. You know the one: pink, hand-knit, with two points resembling cat ears. An adult at her school asked her to remove it because she found it “offensive.” Later in the day this person, most likely encouraged […]

How To
How to (TRY TO) Female Ejaculate

Okay, before we tell you how to ejaculate, we have to set a couple things straight: First, yes, women can ejaculate. Next: no, not all women ejaculate. So if it doesn’t happen for you, please don’t stress about it or feel like your parts aren’t working properly. The last thing we mean to do is […]

Dear Em & Lo
I Hate My Big Vulva/Vagina — What Can I Do?

Dear Em & Lo, I am always self-conscious when it comes to wearing jeans and tight dresses and it’s all because of my big vulva/vagina. This really affects my self-esteem really bad and I think that I am not normal. My vulva/vagina looks big and when I push in too if it, I can already […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Got My Period During Sex and Am Mortified

Dear Em & Lo, I recently hooked up with a guy from work, but unfortunately things did not end up well. While we were having sex I got my period and it was brutal. I was so embarrassed that I didn’t want to finish. He was generally nice about the whole situation but things just […]

Advice
10 Things You Should Know About the Clitoris

  The clitoris is the only organ in the human body (either male or female) whose sole purpose is to transmit sexual sensation. It goes much deeper than you’d think (kind of like a Barbara Walters special): It’s actually a complex organ that extends throughout a woman’s genitals, and is therefore sometimes referred to as […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dreamt I Had a Burnt Penis, Then a Flaming Vulva!

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had the strangest dream last night. I cannot remember all of the parts, but […]

Dear Em & Lo
“Help, I Don’t Have Enough Natural Lubrication for Intercourse!”

Dear Em & Lo, My bf and I have sex and it feels so amazing, but after at least 7 to 10 minutes later it begins to hurt and burn. I try using spit to help with the lubrication but that just seems to make matters worst. So how can I use lube during sex […]