How Fantasizing Can Improve Your Sex Life

Tracey Cox author photo by Daniel Annett The fabulous and funny Tracey Cox from the U.K. is one of our favorite sex writers out there. We’re thrilled to present the following excerpt from her new book, Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True, which is available now on Amazon for your Kindle. Tracey’s Dare product range […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I’m Having Erotic Dreams About My Boss

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: I have had my eye on a guy for 8 […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Husband Likes to Watch Me with Male Strippers

Dear Em & Lo, Me and my husband of twenty years have been fantasizing about so many things — one of which is me being grinded on by a male stripper in a private room with my husband watching. This was realized about a month ago at a gay bar where we decided to proceed […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Does My BF Ask About My Exes During Sex?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. And frankly, this one is a doozie. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. Dear […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Fantasize About Others When in a Relationship?

photo via flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do most guys still fantasize about other people when they’re in a relationship? During masturbation or during sex with their partner, or both?“ To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married Straight Guy (Irad Eyal of […]

How To
5 Ways to Keep Sex Fresh and New — No, Seriously

photo by John Brawley If you want to feel like it’s the very first time, then it’s important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can’t get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being “experimental,” but the occasional awkward moment is a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?

Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “You often hear how the rape fantasy is common in the minds of many women. Do men have this fantasy, too?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I’m sure lots of men have rape […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?

photo by bixentro Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“How common is it for guys imagine someone else while they’re having sex with a partner? Does it depend on the guy? Does it depend on the relationship? How do you think it compares to the rate at which women […]

Comment of the Week: Fantasizing Is Human. Get Over It.

photo by cogdogblog I feel the same way about the guys that hold this double standard [when a guy looks at other women but gets jealous if his girlfriend ogles men] as the girls who read romance novels and watch chick flick marathons and freak out when their guy uses porn to masturbate. It all […]

How To
How to Share a Fantasy in Three Easy(ish) Steps

photo by smell_of_colours Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry […]