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Tag Archive | "Fantasy"

Your Call: Why Does My BF Ask About My Exes During Sex?

Wednesday, February 8, 2012


photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. And frankly, this one is a doozie. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. Dear [...]

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Wise Guys: Do Men Fantasize About Others When in a Relationship?

Tuesday, December 13, 2011


photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do most guys still fantasize about other people when they’re in a relationship? During masturbation or during sex with their partner, or both?“ To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married Straight Guy (Irad Eyal of Sexdegrees.net): [...]

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5 Ways to Keep Sex Fresh and New — No, Seriously

Wednesday, July 20, 2011


photo by John Brawley If you want to feel like it’s the very first time, then it’s important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can‚Äôt get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being “experimental,” but the occasional awkward moment is a [...]

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Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?

Tuesday, March 15, 2011


Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “You often hear how the rape fantasy is common in the minds of many women. Do men have this fantasy, too?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I’m sure lots of men have rape [...]

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Wise Guys – How Often Do Men Think of Someone Else During Sex?

Tuesday, October 19, 2010


photo by bixentro Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“How common is it for guys imagine someone else while they’re having sex with a partner? Does it depend on the guy? Does it depend on the relationship? How do you think it compares to the rate at which women [...]

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Comment of the Week: Fantasizing Is Human. Get Over It.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009


photo by cogdogblog I feel the same way about the guys that hold this double standard [when a guy looks at other women but gets jealous if his girlfriend ogles men] as the girls who read romance novels and watch chick flick marathons and freak out when their guy uses porn to masturbate. It all [...]

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How to Share a Fantasy in Three Easy(ish) Steps

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

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photo by smell_of_colours Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry [...]

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Wise Guys: Do Men Imagine Sex with Every Woman?

Tuesday, November 17, 2009


photo by voxefx Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does every guy see a woman and immediately assess whether or not he’d want to have sex with her? And if he would want to have sex with her, does that mean she automatically becomes a part of his [...]

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Truth or Dare for Grownups — Really Lazy Grownups

Friday, November 6, 2009

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Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at GoodVibes.com. There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get [...]

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Dear Em & Lo: Do My Kinky Fantasies Need Therapy?

Friday, October 9, 2009


photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not [...]

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