Fantasy
Confessions
Comment of the Week: Fantasizing Is Human. Get Over It.

photo by cogdogblog I feel the same way about the guys that hold this double standard [when a guy looks at other women but gets jealous if his girlfriend ogles men] as the girls who read romance novels and watch chick flick marathons and freak out when their guy uses porn to masturbate. It all […]

How To
How to Share a Fantasy in Three Easy(ish) Steps

photo by smell_of_colours Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry […]

Toys
Truth or Dare for Grownups — Really Lazy Grownups

Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at GoodVibes.com. There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Do My Kinky Fantasies Need Therapy?

photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Four Thoughts on Fantasizing

1) I fantasize about other women all the time. All The Time. I’m in a wonderful, committed relationship with a gorgeous woman. I’m able to have my fantasies, and tell her about them — which means that they become part of our relationship. Something that brings us together, rather than something that drives us apart. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Do His Fantasies Mean He’ll Cheat?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my partner for over a year and a half. The sex is good, but I recently found out my partner fantasizes about other women he has seen whilst he has been out with me, or out on his own. How […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight: Blindfold Your Partner

photo by nyki_m The blindfolds that come free with a transatlantic Virgin flight (oh, really, you shouldn’t have, Richard Branson) are sometimes printed with the phrase “forty winks” — and we think we know what kind of winks they’re talking about. Who hasn’t stuffed a complimentary blindfold into their carry-on and thought, “Ooh, I should […]