Masturbation
Your Call
Your Call: What Should She Do About Her Partner’s Porn Habit?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why we regularly turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letters below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I got married six months ago after dating for 1.5 […]

Toys
2 Lovely Love Rings from LELO — But Which One to Choose?

Use Code EMANDLO17 for 15% Off LELO pleasure objects in 2017! It might seem like men get the short end of the stick when it comes to sex toys — the options are limited, and often not very elegant. But one of the simplest male toys is also one of the most effective: the glorious […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator (VIDEO)

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 22-year-old woman who has only become sexually active over the last six months or so. I’m enjoying myself and being safe, but it’s starting to annoy me that I can’t have an orgasm without a vibrator. This really bothered my last boyfriend, which of course made me stressed out, […]

Confessions
How to “Open Up” to Your Wife

Enjoyment of and fascination with one’s own butthole can get a bad rap. Freud deemed it one of his psychosexual “stages,” thereby guaranteeing negative societal judgment of it for about a full century now. And if you’re a straight dude? Forget it: all the narrow-minded sexist homophobes will call you gay and girly (as if those were […]

How To
In Defense of the Quickie, Especially for Women

Have you ever glanced over at the alarm clock on your night-stand during sex and calculated exactly how many hours are left until it rings? An extended 69 or a slow and sensual love-making session is suddenly much less appealing when every minute of pleasure is a minute less of shut-eye. In fact, sometimes just […]

Advice
Use It Or Lose It: 7 Ways a Sex Drought Can Negatively Affect Your Vagina

Aly Walansky for YourTango [Editors’ note: “Sex” here means many things, including, but not limited to, intercourse, oral sex, manual sex, masturbation…]   SEX IS GOOD FOR OUR BODY in ways we can’t even imagine. From better sleep, to a stronger immune system, to burning calories and boosting our mood, getting some is good in many ways. Of […]

Sex Poetry
And the Winner of Our Masturbation Month Haiku Contest Is . . .

THE WINNER: Kids at last asleep My wife went out to Costco A break from laundry — Carol R. Congratulations to Carol, who will soon be the proud owner of a luxury Ina Wave pleasure object from LELO.com (worth $200). With so many fantastic entries to choose from, it was a tough call to make, […]

News
May Masturbation Month Haiku Contest: Win a Fancy LELO!

***THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED*** May is Masturbation Month! Enter our Haiku Contest and you could win an Ina Wave from LELO.com, the revolutionary vibrator with the come-hither gesture for optimum G-spot stimulation worth $200! (One runner-up will receive a bottle of LELO Personal Moisturizer to help make months like May go more smoothly, if […]

Dream Interpretation
I Dream of Masturbating As a Guy, But I’m a Woman

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’m a cis female and have been having sexual dreams. In my dream I am […]

Your Call
How Can I Give Myself a Decent Orgasm? My Body Seems Broken!

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m 18, and for as long as I […]

How To
8 Ways Great Sex Starts WITHOUT Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life. Concerning yourself with just the act of sex is like only counting calories. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that affect sex in […]

Confessions
Why It’s No Big Deal If Your Boyfriend Masturbates…Like, a Lot

Reader Chris said the following in response to our post “Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re in a Relationship?” We have to say, we really dig his idea of not “borrowing trouble” when it comes to a relationship. There are so many real issues that you will have to deal with over the course of […]

How To
How to Masturbate with Style (If You’re a Man)

Masturbation should always be your bit on the side, whether you haven’t got laid in months; or you’re juggling two booty call partners and still finding time for the occasional one-night-stand; or you’ve finally decided to settle down. It’s not just a consolation prize for the lonely hearts. It’s not cheating on your partner, and […]

How To
How to Masturbate (If You’re a Woman)

Women don’t always climax during intercourse, but they almost always do during masturbation. At least, if they’re prepared to put in a bit of practice, they do. The first orgasm is usually the hardest to achieve. It may also be mild and fleeting, but it gets way better. And once a woman has orgasmed on […]

Comment of the Week
8 Ways to Get Him to Focus on YOUR Orgasm for a Change

The following excellent advice from “CaspianC” came in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” We’ve taken the liberty of editing it ever-so slightly into an easy-to-read list (our additions are in brackets).  I was in the same situation. Well, it’s an ongoing issue, but it’s getting better. […]