Romance
How To
10 Steps to Winning Valentine’s Day (with Just 1 Trip to the Grocery Store!)

Short on time? Don’t want to spend a lot of money? But still want to acknowledge your undying affection on Valentine’s Day? All it takes is one trip to the grocery store, a little effort, and a lot of love. 1. NO Red Roses! Go with their favorite flower instead — it’s less cliche, more personal.   […]

Pop Culture
Movie Review: Fifty Shades Blah-er

Fifty Shades Darker, the second movie in the trilogy based on the best-selling erotica series by E.L. James, certainly looks darker — the shadows are blacker, the skies are grayer, the rain is heavier. Every day in this movie feels like Sunday. But if you’re looking for an exploration of the more unnerving and dismaying aspects of […]

How To
How to Make Massage the Perfect Holiday Gift

Learning to massage is the perfect romantic holiday gift for your partner. After a long year, who wouldn’t want to relax together and get extra close with a little back rub? You both deserve this! But a five minute neckrub isn’t going to cut it for Xmas. So below, we’ve outlined our 3-step suggestion for elevating massage […]

How To
The 3 (Non-Sexual) Keys to a Great (Sexual) Relationship

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: My best advice for lighting the fire: communication, understanding, and acceptance. The man […]

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10 Novel Ways to Ignite Your Relationship (from Readers!)

We asked readers to give us their single best tip for lighting up their love life, and we got a lot of inspiring answers. So many in fact, that we’re not just going to publish the 5 big winners of the 5  Wildfire Pleasure Oil Prize Packages, we’re going to publish the top 7 runners up […]

Research
Which One of the 4 Categories of Relationships Are YOU In?

by Merethe Najjar for YourTango Find out where you fall. Personality quizzes abound all over the internet, and it seems that everyone is looking for a simple way to answer carefully selected questions and find out secrets about themselves. Even more persistent are articles and quizzes designed to mystically let you in on the potential for a […]

Toys
Last Chance to WIN $200 in Wildfire Pleasure Oils (Odds Are Excellent)!

*THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED* If you enter now, you’ll probably win one of Wildfire‘s $200 gift packages of pleasure oils — seriously! We’re still looking for a few good answers to the question “What’s a surefire way to ignite your love life?” Take 2 minutes to tell us this week and chances are great that, with […]

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8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

How To
8 Ways to Spice Up Date Night!

Getting some quality time with your partner, let alone making time for sex, is not always easy. So, when you do get some precious hours to yourselves, you want to make the most of it, right? It’s easy to fall into a dinner-&-a-movie rut. So use these tips to take a ho-hum date night to a love […]

Personal Essays
On the 10th Anniversary of Our DIY Wedding

Ten years ago today, Joey and I were married — untraditionally, feministically, fantastically. By the spring of 2006, we knew we were going to be together, but we weren’t sure we were going to exchange vows. As a little girl, I had never dreamed of my big day with a big white dress and a big white […]

How To
5 Sensual Massage No-No’s

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist since 2000, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub: 1. Don’t Heat the oil in a microwave. I’ve heard stories of people warming up their massage oil in the microwave. *facepalm* Don’t ever be one of […]

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Sexless VS. Loveless Marriages: There Are 9 Crucial Differences Between Them!

by Ossiana Tepfenhart for YourTango   It’s hard to imagine a happy relationship between romantic partners without sex involved. If you look at just about romantic comedy out there, there’s going to be a certain level of sexual tension involved. There’s that beautiful spark that seems to ignite between both characters in these kinds of movies, and […]

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5 Ways to Get More “Us Time”

Emma Merkas is the co-founder of Melt: Massage for Couples along with her husband Denis, a massage therapist who’s taught more than 15,000 couples over the past 15 years the art of a great back rub: “US TIME” often falls by the wayside in long term relationships. It’s very easy to let all our other responsibilities creep in. We push our marriages […]

Your Call
What Are the Best Songs for a Sex Playlist?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I need some new ideas: What are some […]

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8 Signs You’re Ready for REAL Love Instead of Fantasy Fairytales

by Gemma Hartley for YourTango Once upon a time, I was really into Nicholas Sparks novels and romantic movies, and couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t happy in relationships. Or rather, I knew exactly why I was unhappy: no one was living up to the fairytale I had fashioned for myself in my head. I […]