The Myths of “Neat” Labia & Big Boobs in Porn

Emma P, the founder of and (both of which aim to show that body parts aren’t “better” or “worse,” just “different), took issue with a few of our points in the recent post, “10 Myths About Labia Debunked“: I do have a big problem with what you’ve written in myth #8 about porn performers: MYTH #8: […]

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10 Myths About Labia Debunked

Pity the poor labia — they’re more hated on than the Kardashian sisters. Here we debunk ten commons myths about them, to help you the love the labia in your life a little more. MYTH #1: Most women have a matching pair. FACT: Most women have different sized labia — exact symmetry is rare in nature — […]

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Is It Okay to Use a Vibrator That’s Bigger Than My Boyfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my […]

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How to Help Your Vagina Taste and Smell Better

Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I have been been sexually active with one another for five years.  I’ve been smoking cigarettes for four years. I slowed down dramatically when I got pregnant in 2007 (from needing my own pack to two cigarettes a day or none at all). My husband didn’t know about […]

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10 Easy Ways to Keep Your Vagina Healthy

The vagina is a sensitive little thing, but there are some easy ways to nurture it – while these tips aren’t guaranteed to ward off problems like yeast infections and UTIs, they’ll certainly help: 1. Always Pee Right After Sex Especially if you’re prone to urinary tract infections. If you’re especially prone, consider showering after […]

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11 NEW Ways to Touch Her Vagina!!!

This week, the Men’s Health’s newsletter reached an epic low in shameless click baiting with their lead article “16 New Ways to Touch Her Vagina.” We tried to imagine how new these moves could possibly be, since Men’s Health sends this kind of email out three to four times a week! Here are the fruits […]

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Rethinking Male and Female Sexual Anatomy

So often we focus on the differences between men and women. But we’d do well to consider how alike we are, too — especially when it comes to sexual anatomy. Rather than thinking of a woman’s parts as inferior, miniature versions of his, embrace the fact that they are equitable, albeit more internal, sexual structures […]

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What Is the PS-Spot and How Can I Enjoy It?

photo via flickr Unless you’ve been living in a cave, you know exactly what the G-spot is, and you probably know where it is, too — an area on the front wall of the vagina a few inches in that, when stimulated, can result in extreme pleasure, explosive orgasms, and even female ejaculation…well, at least […]

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In Defense of Sex Toys, Feminism and Trolls

For the most part, we tend to ignore the trolls. But every once in a while, outlandish claims need to be addressed to ensure that reality-based facts win over fear, insecurity and hate. In response to a post about a woman whose inability to orgasm without a sex toy was hurting her boyfriend’s feelings, one […]

I Dropped My Ben-Wa Balls on Date Night

by Alex Alexander for YourTango   I think we can all blame Fifty Shades of Grey for our knowledge and misconceptions about Ben-Wa balls — or at least I can. I’ve known about the existence of them for a long time — and it’s why I always giggled when Ben Wallace took the court during an NBA game — […]