We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. 

My girlfriend of 9 months doesn’t own a sex toy. I think deep down she’d like one, but she doesn’t have the nerve to get one. She also wouldn’t know where to begin. I don’t either, really. I want to get her something that she won’t find offensive or gross, that she’ll think is cool and not crass. It could be something we use together, but maybe she’d rather use it in private…? Any suggestions would be appreciated!

— Toyless

What should Toyless get?
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