Advice
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Love Sex! Does That Make Me a Slut?

Dear Em & Lo, Lately, my need for sex has been UNQUENCHABLE. It’s reached the point where I’ve roped two booty calls into alternating nights. Am I a slut for doing this? I’m worried that I’m becoming addicted to sex — and I’m only 23! I’ve always had a high sex drive but I’ve never […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Vanessa: Is Sex During Pregnancy OK?

photo by karindaiziel Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, I’m pregnant and healthy. I’ve heard it’s okay to have sex when you’re pregnant. […]

Your Call
Your Call on Spank Tuesday: How Do I Get My Guy to Spank Me?

photo via Rachel_Kramer_Bussel “Spank Tuesday” continues with this question from a reader: Dear Em & Lo, How do I ask my husband to spank me? It is many years since I was spanked. Do I just ask him or buy a paddle as a Valentine’s gift or what? — Red-Cheeked Wannabe What should Red-Cheeked Wannabe […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Cheated on My Boyf with My Boyf

photo by e.esders Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Recently, I had a very strange dream: I was making out with a guy, when suddenly, my boyfriend walks in, […]

Confessions
Top 10 Things We Learned from EMandLO.com Commenters This Year

Size doesn’t matter. Skills do. The Nuva Ring is one of the most confusing birth control methods out there. (Either that, or EMandLO.com was the only place online in 2009 giving out decent info on it.) If you want support for your cheating ways, don’t come here. A lot of straight guys are into a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men

photo by makelessnoise Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “My boyfriend claims it means nothing when he looks at other women, and yet he gets jealous when I look at other men. Why is that?“ Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): It’s a combination of insecurity […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Watch Strangers Having Sex

photo by pedrosimoes7 Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Last couple of weeks I have been having dreams about strangers having sex, or about to have sex. I am […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Sex-Related New Year’s Resolutions

Who said that a new year’s resolution had to involve giving up something you enjoy? Rehab is for quitters! Here’s a novel idea: take on some booty-related resolutions instead. We’ve compiled two lists of resolutions, depending on whether you’re single or loved-up. Learn them, live them, love them… If you’re in a LTR (or monogamish)… No […]

How To
Top 10 Skills You (Should Have) Learned from Us in 2009

photo by sinabeet Ladies and gentlemen, have you been taking notes? We didn’t think so. Well, you’re in luck, because we have a very organized archive and you can find all our how-to columns at the click of a link. If you were student of the year and showed up to every single day, here […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is a Striptease a Good Last-Minute Gift?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the question, “If your partner gave you a serious striptease with a serious striptease face and cheesy music, would it really be the best present ever or would it be kinda weird and uncomfortable?”: Straight Single Guy (Max): A serious striptease requires two things. […]

How To
10 Worst Things to Say at Your Partner’s Family Holiday Dinner

photo by Average Jane Forget charades, let’s debate the Stupak Amendment! So what made you guys decide not to circumcise your son? No Brussels sprouts for me, thanks — we’re planning on anal tonight and I don’t want to be gassy. Hoo-boy, anyone got a box of matches I could borrow for the bathroom? I […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: An HIV+ Boyfriend in Target

photo by phigonggoi Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: My boyfriend and I have been on rocky ground lately and I can’t seem to break through the tension. There’s […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: What Can I Do About My Body Hair?

photo by Tatters:) Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every few weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’m a light skinned woman who’s pretty hairy all over, including hairs on my chin […]

How To
How to Share a Fantasy in 3 Easy(ish) Steps

Sharing a fantasy with a partner can be a cheap and easy way to foster intimacy, build trust, and kink things up. But it takes a lot of courage to do. What if you think yours is too mundane to put into words (remember Meg Ryan’s faceless stranger fantasy in When Harry Met Sally?). Or […]

How To
How Not to Regret Your Holiday Office Party in 4 Easy Steps

photo by iLoveButter We’ve both worked from home for more than five years, which means that we’ve been deprived of the Curb-Your-Enthusiasm-esque pleasure-meets-pain of holiday office party shenanigans. (We did make a festive trip together to the local Christmas tree farm, but there was no Xerox machine there for us to disgrace ourselves on.) So, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: When Is It Okay for a Woman to Fart?

photo by ab9kt Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “When is it okay for a woman to fart in front of her partner?“ Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): Your five-year wedding anniversary. Some rather liberal couples will try to tell you they really don’t care about their partner’s […]