photo by hyperscholar Arguing sucks. Of course love is important but harmony and friendship should be equally desirable. Give it time, cool down. You always have a choice when you’re in a relationship: Do I still actually want to do this? Ask yourself that very seriously to check up with yourself. Are you happy? Go […]
photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com An interesting debate among commenters (and in Johnny’s case, with himself) about the good and bad of porn (plus, a lesson in “literature” vs. “research”) from the post “Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Thinks Porn-Viewing Is a Dealbreaker“: Crimsonia Says: October 21st, 2010 at 12:19 pm …the industry is not all about the […]
photo by robbie_jim We were surprised by how many of our readers took offense at our Wise Guys’ response to the recent question, “Do Men Care What Labia Look Like?” To our mind, the guys were basically saying, “Love what you got, most men already do, porn ideals be damned.” But apparently that message didn’t […]
Last week we praised Dan Savage’s YouTube campaign “It Gets Better” to encourage and support gay teens, which sparked a indirect debate between this site and Femmephane: Angelika Says: October 10th, 2010 at 8:05 pm e as much as I agree on the importance of non-bullying and a truly sex-positive life-perspective, I have been feeling […]
photo by Philippe Put Of course you should compromise [about masturbation] with a reasonable partner — but you should never negotiate with a terrorist. A reasonable partner might say, “Please jerk off less because I’d like you to actually be horny when we’re together.” Or, “Please don’t cheat on me, because I don’t want syphilis.” A […]
photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]
photo by sergeant killjoy Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder! I had a birth accident that left me with a partially paralyzed face, but was raised by parents who treated me like anybody else with the potential for social success. Result? Exuberant, unselfconscious, happy me got real friends and boyfriends; the […]
photo by Mangiu Our regular commenter/contributor Figleaf weighed in on the body image debate in last week’s Wise Guy installment: Based on quite a bit of personal sex-pundit research into people’s attitudes about their own self-images. People have an extraordinary eye for their own flaws. Even weirder, we have an unbelievable tendency to fret about […]
photo by Leandro Martinez We’re not taking sides on this debate (yet!), but we did like Dannie’s analogy where she compares penis prejudice to a man refusing to sleep with a woman whose inner labia hang lower than the outer. And the debate rages on… When erect, an uncircumcised penis looks pretty much the same […]
We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy: I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical […]
photo by smulligannn I reckon that as well as part of the sexuality pie we share with our partners, we all still have slices that belong to us as an individual. Perhaps if you feel his personal slice is way outweighing the slice you’re sharing as a couple, just have a good old wank yourself! […]
When it comes to pubic grooming, whatever makes you feel sexy and confident is what you should do. But in an age when the majority people feel hair removal is a moral imperative — that you’re skanky and lazy if you don’t — you may feel like you don’t have much choice in the matter. […]
We couldn’t agree more with Jenn’s comment below. So here’s another question: For the porn-curious who don’t want to wade through thousands of titles to make the distinction, is there a short-cut to finding porn that IS fair to all those involved? Why does porn always have to be one or the other? It’s like […]
a Starter Strap-On Kit Yep, the strap-on post continues to rake in the comments! Today’s featured comment is #210 out of a total of 214 (and counting) responses to the original post. (Only another 70 comments or so to go to catch up with the small penis post!) I asked the girlfriend to do this […]
Last week we wrote a post about our friend’s new guilty pleasure book, Sex Degrees of Separation: The Ultimate Guide to Celebrity Relationships, which sparked an amusing exchange between regular EMandLO.com commenter Johnny and the author of the book, Irad Eyal: Johnny Says: July 9th, 2010 at 1:46 pm Ah jeez. As if Americans weren’t […]
Toys are great for an older couple who want to try something new and exciting. We have been married 36 years. Due to a number of health issues and powerful medications, my equipment doesn’t work well anymore. My self esteem was rock bottom. One day as I was driving by an adult shop, I stopped […]
photo by hyperscholar Arguing sucks. Of course love is important but harmony and friendship should be equally desirable. Give it time, cool down. You always have a choice when you’re in a relationship: Do I still actually want to do this? Ask yourself that very seriously to check up with yourself. Are you happy? Go […]
photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com An interesting debate among commenters (and in Johnny’s case, with himself) about the good and bad of porn (plus, a lesson in “literature” vs. “research”) from the post “Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Thinks Porn-Viewing Is a Dealbreaker“: Crimsonia Says: October 21st, 2010 at 12:19 pm …the industry is not all about the […]
photo by robbie_jim We were surprised by how many of our readers took offense at our Wise Guys’ response to the recent question, “Do Men Care What Labia Look Like?” To our mind, the guys were basically saying, “Love what you got, most men already do, porn ideals be damned.” But apparently that message didn’t […]
Last week we praised Dan Savage’s YouTube campaign “It Gets Better” to encourage and support gay teens, which sparked a indirect debate between this site and Femmephane: Angelika Says: October 10th, 2010 at 8:05 pm e as much as I agree on the importance of non-bullying and a truly sex-positive life-perspective, I have been feeling […]
photo by Philippe Put Of course you should compromise [about masturbation] with a reasonable partner — but you should never negotiate with a terrorist. A reasonable partner might say, “Please jerk off less because I’d like you to actually be horny when we’re together.” Or, “Please don’t cheat on me, because I don’t want syphilis.” A […]
photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]
photo by sergeant killjoy Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder! I had a birth accident that left me with a partially paralyzed face, but was raised by parents who treated me like anybody else with the potential for social success. Result? Exuberant, unselfconscious, happy me got real friends and boyfriends; the […]
photo by Mangiu Our regular commenter/contributor Figleaf weighed in on the body image debate in last week’s Wise Guy installment: Based on quite a bit of personal sex-pundit research into people’s attitudes about their own self-images. People have an extraordinary eye for their own flaws. Even weirder, we have an unbelievable tendency to fret about […]
photo by Leandro Martinez We’re not taking sides on this debate (yet!), but we did like Dannie’s analogy where she compares penis prejudice to a man refusing to sleep with a woman whose inner labia hang lower than the outer. And the debate rages on… When erect, an uncircumcised penis looks pretty much the same […]
We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy: I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical […]
photo by smulligannn I reckon that as well as part of the sexuality pie we share with our partners, we all still have slices that belong to us as an individual. Perhaps if you feel his personal slice is way outweighing the slice you’re sharing as a couple, just have a good old wank yourself! […]
When it comes to pubic grooming, whatever makes you feel sexy and confident is what you should do. But in an age when the majority people feel hair removal is a moral imperative — that you’re skanky and lazy if you don’t — you may feel like you don’t have much choice in the matter. […]
We couldn’t agree more with Jenn’s comment below. So here’s another question: For the porn-curious who don’t want to wade through thousands of titles to make the distinction, is there a short-cut to finding porn that IS fair to all those involved? Why does porn always have to be one or the other? It’s like […]
a Starter Strap-On Kit Yep, the strap-on post continues to rake in the comments! Today’s featured comment is #210 out of a total of 214 (and counting) responses to the original post. (Only another 70 comments or so to go to catch up with the small penis post!) I asked the girlfriend to do this […]
Last week we wrote a post about our friend’s new guilty pleasure book, Sex Degrees of Separation: The Ultimate Guide to Celebrity Relationships, which sparked an amusing exchange between regular EMandLO.com commenter Johnny and the author of the book, Irad Eyal: Johnny Says: July 9th, 2010 at 1:46 pm Ah jeez. As if Americans weren’t […]
Toys are great for an older couple who want to try something new and exciting. We have been married 36 years. Due to a number of health issues and powerful medications, my equipment doesn’t work well anymore. My self esteem was rock bottom. One day as I was driving by an adult shop, I stopped […]