In last week’s “Your Call,” Grace gave some great advice to a reader who couldn’t shake her harassing ex and his girlfriend: Here are the steps you have to follow, as told to me by my local District Attorney: Immediately go to your local precinct and file a report of harassment. This gets the paper […]
images via beautifulagony.com Our contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: You constantly hear about how men get off just from the sound of their partner’s moans and groans — there’s a reason that […]
feminist majority T In response to last week’s Wise Guy discussion, wherein the fellas basically said men aren’t feminists and feminism is dead, a few uppity women* had some serious straight-settling to do: Tiffany: Wow. I’m shocked at the general consensus that the work of feminism is somehow “done.” We’ve come a long way for […]
From Claire, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?” I just want to say that I am very very offended by the term “rape fantasy.” The word rape implies something being done to you (completely against your will) that you do not want. It should not be used […]
Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: My armpits are hairy. I study gender and sexuality. The Birkenstocks in my closet are held together by duct tape. If it were the sixties, my bra would probably be burning in the town square (if women […]
photo by bixentro Dannie‘s voice of reason emerged this past week in a debate about body fluid etiquette: It’s all about attraction/what you like/don’t like. Nobody is expecting everyone to like things one way or another, and no one is telling anyone they’re wrong for liking what they do. We all just have different types […]
Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses which traditionally “sexy” things she finds absolutely unsexy: Passivity. Women often mistake having an opinion for being bitchy, and so opt for submissiveness. But life’s better when it’s real, so speak up and be honest. There’s nothing wrong with taking the […]
I totally feel your pain. I have never been able to orgasm with my boyfriend of over a year (the only guy I’ve slept with) or on my own. It can be very disheartening. One thing that is especially irritating is the way so much advice is worded. “You know you’ve gotten to the big […]
photo by jenny downing A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Early into the sexual getting-to-know-you phase of my most recent relationship, my then-new beau surfaced for air mid-tumble long enough to exclaim, confused and generally pleased, “Dude, you wear some scandalous underwear!” And, you know […]
photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]
photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com There were so many great responses to the post “Your Call: My Husband and I Can’t Compromise on Porn” that it was hard to pick just one this week. We chose JenH’s comment because we love her creative suggestions for working around the porn issue. Keep the advice and stories coming! I […]
photo by sebilden Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I remember the day well. I was twelve and had stayed home from school. “I feel sick,” I told my parents. I was skilled at feigning illness, especially on days when there were math […]
Sioux, responding to the post “Your Call: What Should He Do for Valentine’s Day?”: Step 1: Bake something involved. I’m being serious. Find a recipe for something fancy, delicious, and sweet that you think would suit her taste. Does she like dark chocolate? Make truffles. Cupcakes? Find an interesting recipe and make a go for […]
photo by demi-brooke Relax. You did nothing wrong — wires get crossed in our heads, and things come out that mean nothing… it sounds like that’s what happened. If you’re totally present in your current relationship that’s all that really matters — so tell your boyfriend that, acknowledge your error, apologize, but don’t act like […]
SEXUALITY DOES NOT DETERMINE INTEGRITY. PERIOD. And since faithfulness has it roots in integrity, sexuality doesn’t determine it any more than race, hair color, height, gender, etc. Each individual makes a CONSCIOUS decision as to whether or not they are going to be faithful. I’m straight and married to a bi-sexual, and I “hang” just […]
For the record, when we select a Comment of the Week, it’s not necessarily an endorsement of that commenter’s opinion — rather, it’s a comment that we feel is interesting for some reason: for the debate it sparks, perhaps, or the buttons it pushes. And it’s in that spirit that we present the following fairly […]
In last week’s “Your Call,” Grace gave some great advice to a reader who couldn’t shake her harassing ex and his girlfriend: Here are the steps you have to follow, as told to me by my local District Attorney: Immediately go to your local precinct and file a report of harassment. This gets the paper […]
images via beautifulagony.com Our contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: You constantly hear about how men get off just from the sound of their partner’s moans and groans — there’s a reason that […]
feminist majority T In response to last week’s Wise Guy discussion, wherein the fellas basically said men aren’t feminists and feminism is dead, a few uppity women* had some serious straight-settling to do: Tiffany: Wow. I’m shocked at the general consensus that the work of feminism is somehow “done.” We’ve come a long way for […]
From Claire, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?” I just want to say that I am very very offended by the term “rape fantasy.” The word rape implies something being done to you (completely against your will) that you do not want. It should not be used […]
Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: My armpits are hairy. I study gender and sexuality. The Birkenstocks in my closet are held together by duct tape. If it were the sixties, my bra would probably be burning in the town square (if women […]
photo by bixentro Dannie‘s voice of reason emerged this past week in a debate about body fluid etiquette: It’s all about attraction/what you like/don’t like. Nobody is expecting everyone to like things one way or another, and no one is telling anyone they’re wrong for liking what they do. We all just have different types […]
Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses which traditionally “sexy” things she finds absolutely unsexy: Passivity. Women often mistake having an opinion for being bitchy, and so opt for submissiveness. But life’s better when it’s real, so speak up and be honest. There’s nothing wrong with taking the […]
I totally feel your pain. I have never been able to orgasm with my boyfriend of over a year (the only guy I’ve slept with) or on my own. It can be very disheartening. One thing that is especially irritating is the way so much advice is worded. “You know you’ve gotten to the big […]
photo by jenny downing A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Early into the sexual getting-to-know-you phase of my most recent relationship, my then-new beau surfaced for air mid-tumble long enough to exclaim, confused and generally pleased, “Dude, you wear some scandalous underwear!” And, you know […]
photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]
photo by TheNaughtyAmerican.com There were so many great responses to the post “Your Call: My Husband and I Can’t Compromise on Porn” that it was hard to pick just one this week. We chose JenH’s comment because we love her creative suggestions for working around the porn issue. Keep the advice and stories coming! I […]
photo by sebilden Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I remember the day well. I was twelve and had stayed home from school. “I feel sick,” I told my parents. I was skilled at feigning illness, especially on days when there were math […]
Sioux, responding to the post “Your Call: What Should He Do for Valentine’s Day?”: Step 1: Bake something involved. I’m being serious. Find a recipe for something fancy, delicious, and sweet that you think would suit her taste. Does she like dark chocolate? Make truffles. Cupcakes? Find an interesting recipe and make a go for […]
photo by demi-brooke Relax. You did nothing wrong — wires get crossed in our heads, and things come out that mean nothing… it sounds like that’s what happened. If you’re totally present in your current relationship that’s all that really matters — so tell your boyfriend that, acknowledge your error, apologize, but don’t act like […]
SEXUALITY DOES NOT DETERMINE INTEGRITY. PERIOD. And since faithfulness has it roots in integrity, sexuality doesn’t determine it any more than race, hair color, height, gender, etc. Each individual makes a CONSCIOUS decision as to whether or not they are going to be faithful. I’m straight and married to a bi-sexual, and I “hang” just […]
For the record, when we select a Comment of the Week, it’s not necessarily an endorsement of that commenter’s opinion — rather, it’s a comment that we feel is interesting for some reason: for the debate it sparks, perhaps, or the buttons it pushes. And it’s in that spirit that we present the following fairly […]