How To
Books
How Headphones Can Kink Up Your Sex Life

photo via flickr The following is an excerpt from the “H” section of our new A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Ear plugs aren’t just for construction workers and insomniacs, and noise-canceling […]

How To
S Is for Spanking

The following is an excerpt from the “S”section of our new A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Spanking is hand-to-tush contact, which many consider more intimate and less scary than any other […]

How To
A Spanking Fetish Without the Cliche Emotional Baggage

photo via flickr We don’t often read the “Modern Love” column in the New York Times Sunday Styles section these days — when you’ve been in the biz as long as we have, it’s easy to get cynical and feel like you’ve heard every story about love and sex there is to tell. But  this […]

How To
The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]

Confessions
8 Rules for the Third Wheel in a Threeway

Our contributor is a college student who wishes to remain anonymous. She has some sage advice to impart on the topic of three ways… When people give warnings about threeways, it’s usually directed at couples who are bringing in a third party. Threeways are not a relationship-building exercise, they tell you. Are you sure your relationship can handle […]

How To
How to Buy a Sex Toy (With No Buyer’s Remorse)

The Nea by Lelo fits all our criteria below There are countless toys out there to choose from — unfortunately, not all of them will get you to your happy place effectively, or even safely. The sex toy industry is littered with manufacturers and distributors who are more interested in quantity than quality. Fortunately that’s […]

How To
Can Open Relationships Cure Jealousy?

We’ve always said that if you want to be in an open relationship, it helps if you’re the kind of advanced human being who is missing the jealousy gene. (Neither of us comes even remotely close, for the record.) It just seems like, if you’re going to be cool with your one-and-only kissing someone else […]

How To
Top 10 Sex Tips for First Year College Students

For many young men and women, this week marks the start of a new chapter of life — one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking. It’s a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with 18-year-old hormones — which can result in a […]

How To
KEGEL WEEK: How to Do Kegels (for HIM)

Yesterday we went over the anatomy of your genital muscles and introduced you to the man who invented Kegels. Today, gentlemen, we instruct you on how to actually do the strengthening exercises. The following is excerpted from our first sex manual, The Big Bang: KEGELS FOR HIM Regular kegel exercises are a way to bond with […]

How To
KEGEL WEEK: How To Do Kegels (for HER)

  Yesterday we went over the anatomy of your genital muscles and introduced you to the man who invented Kegels. Today, we instruct you, ladies, on how to actually do the strengthening exercises. (Guys, you’re up next.) The following is excerpted from our first sex manual, The Big Bang: KEGELS FOR HER Not only do defined […]

How To
KEGEL WEEK: An Introduction to Your Pelvic Floor Muscles (Meet Mr. Kegel)

  The following is excerpted from our first sex manual, The Big Bang: We don’t care if you’ve never been to a gym in your life; you simply must work out your pelvic muscles if you want to consider yourself sexually fit. Don’t worry, you won’t break a sweat. You can even start working them […]

Dear Em & Lo
5 Ways to Make Sex with the Well-Endowed More Comfortable

Dear Em and Lo, I have recently found that mythical man that every woman wants and movies portray. He’s financially stable, no ex drama, gorgeous (holy crap is he!), very sexy, and very tall (approx 6′ 3″-4″). The latter part of his good qualities is what’s the issue — he’s TALL. Meaning that everything else […]

How To
The Reverse Coital Alignment Technique (or Reverse C.A.T.)

Yesterday we reviewed the Coital Alignment Technique, a sexual position that involves lots of body contact, slow and steady shifting, and a philosophical readjustment toward intercourse — all designed to increase a woman’s chances of orgasm via penile penetration. (Trust us, it’s sexier than that sounds.) Today, we cover how to flip that C.A.T. upside […]

How To
The Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.) – A Refresher Course

You’ve all heard of the Coital Alignment Technique. It was all the rage a decade or so ago. But have you ever actually tried it? Have you tried it again recently? It takes patience. It takes practice. And it goes against everything you’ve seen in porn. But since when did porn cater to what women […]

How To
Our Commencement Advice to Grads

In his recent Class Day speech at Princeton University, Steve Carell closed with his version of the “wear sunscreen” list of helpful hints for grads. (Except, of course, the original “wear sunscreen” advice was not given by Kurt Vonnegut during a commencement address at MIT, as the Internets insisted on telling us for years — […]

How To
What Your Vehicle Says About Your Sex Life

photo via flickr Country singer Kip Moore doesn’t rhyme “truck” with “fuck” in his hit song “Somethin’ ‘Bout a Truck” — but he doesn’t have to. Every line of the song oozes sex. Screw rising gas prices and your neighbor with the Porsche, the implication goes: a truck is for getting laid in (in the […]