Personal Essays
Personal Essays
Confession: I Don't Want My Parents' Relationship

Mrs. & Mr. Cleaver A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I have never met two people who love each other more than my parents. They get a pre-work coffee together every morning. They never get sick of talking to each other. They complete each other’s […]

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Confession: I Love My Boobs!

photo by PinkMoose A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I have this dress that I bought at H&M a few months ago that I wear whenever I’m in the mood to feel sexy. Translation: I wear this dress all the time. It’s nothing particularly trashy: […]

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The Virgin Diaries – How Video Games Taught Me What Sexy Is

Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her fourth installment: From the moment I spotted her sitting on a shelf at a local Best Buy, I knew I wanted […]

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Introducing "The Virgin Diaries"

photo by Rafael Acorsi Perhaps you’re familiar with our regular contributor, Katherine Chen, a sophomore English major at Princeton University. She’s written several thoughtful essays on topics like porn and puberty. What really sets apart her involvement with our site about sex, however, is the fact that she’s never had any. But just because one […]

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Confession: Synagogue Sex Ed

photo by Lawrie Cate A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Before my freshman year of high school, I didn’t know much more about sex than the basic mechanics. Insert tab A into slot B and, voila, you have a baby and/or an STD. This was […]

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Confession: I Don't Do Drunken Hookups

photo by nayrb7 A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I woke up one morning after an evening chugging most of a jug of $3 wine and several cups of that uniquely collegiate concoction “jungle juice.” Head pounding, eyes squinting, and stomach lurching, I realized there […]

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My New Sex Ed Teacher: Mom

A contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: Until about a year ago, my mother was always very close-minded about sex. I never had “the talk” with either of my parents, and I learned about intercourse and other modes of love making via fellow classmates, porn, and the […]

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Confession: Hello Operator, Please Give Me My New Vibe

Cloud 9 from Babeland A contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: One of the oft-cited benefits of buying a sex toy online is that you don’t have to see or speak to anyone. You don’t have to interact with a real human, period. But what happens when […]

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Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?

Lo thinks that baby talk is an expression and facilitator of intimacy, that it encourages pair-bonding and protective instincts in romantic relationships. Which is to say, hating it outright is like hating kittens. Em thinks that baby talk is gross. So we decided to settle this once and for all like grownups — in an iChat […]

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Confession: 7 Reasons Why I Hate Shower Sex

photo by stevendepolo A contributor friend of ours, who wished to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I’m all for showering independently, quickly toweling off, and jumping back into bed for sex — that’s a good start to any morning. But if you want me to actually join you in the shower, you should […]

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The Virgin Diaries: The Sexiness of Abstinence

Our contributor Katherine Chen, a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her third installment: These days, every girl between 10 and 50 seems to be obsessed with the Twilight Saga. You’d think it was because […]

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The Virgin Diaries: All I Really Needed to Know I Learned from Porn

Our contributor Katherine Chen, an English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” In her first installment, she wrote about how her sex education began (hint: poorly). Here she elaborates on how it improved: My first porn video: A […]

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Confession: I’m an Expert Sexter

photo by CoreForce Our contributor is a junior in college. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… Sexting, for the uninitiated, involves sending texts that are sexual in nature. These can range from straightforward (e.g. “I want to fuck you right now”) to graphically descriptive (use your imagination). And, if you’re brave — or, […]

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Confession: I Need More Hot Sweaty . . . Cuddling

photo by Leeni Speaking of casual cuddling: Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: It has been exactly a year since I last had sex. I didn’t intend on taking a vow of celibacy. Like belly button lint and shocking celebrity deaths […]

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The Virgin Diaries: “Becoming a Woman” Sucked

photo by krossbow Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her first installment: At ten years old, I was an early receiver of Mother Nature’s red-ribbon gift for women. […]

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Confession: I’m Relocating Oral Sex Past Home Base

photo by ShashiBellamkonda Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: From an early age, sex always seemed logical to me. Penis goes into vagina. Perhaps orgasms ensue. Perhaps a baby grows. Perhaps not. The end. It didn’t sound appealing, but it didn’t […]