We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader:
Dear Em & Lo,
Me and my ex were together for almost 2 years. He broke up with me last month, and I was so shocked and hurt. He texted me while I was at work saying he wanted to talk to me that night about some things that had been on his mind. We started talking and at the beginning of our conversation it almost seemed as though he was asking me to fully move in with him (I lived there 4 days out of the week), but by the end of the conversation he said he felt he would be a better friend than a boyfriend. I couldn’t believe it, I was so surprised. He hadn’t shown any signs of it, but said that he had been feeling like this the last few months and was starting to feel like he wasn’t IN love with me anymore. Not even 3 weeks before was my birthday and we went away with my friends and I had never felt as loved by him than while we were there!
The one thing that really mad me upset is that he was not willing to try and work things out at all, even though this is the first I’d heard of any of this. We agreed on being friends, and have texted here and there. I don’t want to cut him out of my life but it’s been really hard. I want him to see that he made the wrong choice.
I’m still upset about it and the mornings are the worst time of day. What do you think I should do?
— Shocked and Awed
