Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I had a dream that my husband was cheating on me with a woman his mother set him up with. He made excuses that he was walking her cat everyday. I took his place and met the woman “Elizabeth” and told her that I was his wife and that I was filling in on walking her cat. She didn’t believe me and left. When I got home, my brother was on the porch and I told him what had happened. My brother then proceeds to tell me that my husband and this girl have been messing around for quite some time. I confront my husband and he tells me that it’s true, so I tell him I want a divorce and he puts up no arguments.
This is one of my worst fears though I don’t think my husband is cheating on me in real life. I wake up so upset and heart broken that I cry and can’t even be in the same bed with him. I always tell him about these dreams when he wakes up and he is super supportive saying I love you, we aren’t getting divorced and it was just a dream. What are my dreams trying to tell me?
Lauri: Your dreams are telling you that there is a third wheel in your marriage but it’s not another woman… it is something that is somewhat of a wedge, something that is causing you to feel “cheated” out of the time and attention you want with your hubby.
Since, in the dream, his mother set him up with the woman, I can’t help but suspect the wedge in real life may be connected to her. Did his mother recently cause an issue between the two of you? Did he take her side rather than yours? Or did she ask him to do something that took away from time and attention you wanted?
The cat may be a clue as to what this is. In the dream he is walking the cat like a dog. Cats can symbolize independence and dogs can symbolize loyalty. The way he is treating the cat like a dog makes me wonder if you feel he is being too loyal to his mother and that they should be more independent of each other.
It seems you keep getting these dreams which is a tell-tale sign this has been an issue for quite a while. A mother should NEVER become an issue in a marriage and it is his job to tell her to back off… if that is the case. If it’s not the mother-in-law, then ask yourself what else feels like a wedge… His work? Fantasy football? Golf? Some project? Whatever it is, these dreams are a constant reminder that you two would do well to balance your time with each other a bit better.
Dreamer Response: I really appreciate your interpretation. This actually makes sense to me after thinking about it for a few. My husband has a sister and her middle name is Elizabeth. I’ve never called her by that but my mother-in-law and his sister teamed up against me a couple years ago. They kind of attacked me about how we were raising my son. I still have not fully been able to forgive either of them, and maybe I feel betrayed because my husband has forgiven them more than I have. I suppose that they could be the wedge, and my child could be the “cat”, a symbol of what I haven’t forgiven them of.
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