Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I dreamt a woman that I didn’t know told me my boyfriend was cheating on me and that he was very excited because the girl was pregnant. Then the woman who my boyfriend cheated on me with appeared and said she was happy to meet me. I thought she was very unattractive but nice and that made me angry. She introduced herself as his girlfriend, she thought we had broken up. When I said he is my boyfriend, we live together and have 2 children she looked surprised and said she lives with him also in his room. The scene then changed and I was confronting my boyfriend in our car. He admitted that the woman was pregnant by him and at that moment Arnold Schwarzenegger drove by with a crazy look on his face (I did not see anything featuring him prior to falling asleep). Then I woke up…I’m so confused!!! What does it mean!?
Lauri: Cheating dreams run rampant through our minds at night yet they are rarely connected to an actual affair. These dreams are so common because there is typically something our mate is involved in that he or she gives an awful lot of time and attention to, causing us to feel “cheated” out of the time and attention we want. In my research I have found that it is usually work that becomes the third wheel in the relationship. But it could be anything that you feel preoccupies him.
In your cheating dream, your boyfriend has impregnated his mistress. This indicates that in real life, whatever this thing is that your boyfriend is focused on, is now beginning to grow. The other woman also tells you that she lives with him, in his room. Besides you, what would you say your boyfriend “lives with?” Is he “living with” remorse or depression? Anything like that? Or is he so focused on some project that you feel he is practically married to it?
Whatever it is, I believe Arnold Schwarzenegger represents your desire to “Terminate” the issue.
Response from Dreamer: Lauri you are amazing! Everything you said makes perfect sense!! He has been preoccupied with work but spending a lot of his free time with his friends…one friend in particular who I have actually argued with my boyfriend over telling him he spends more time with the guy than me as if it’s his boyfriend! They hang out in the “man cave” in our house which I think is the “I live in his room” part of my dream. I absolutely love the Arnold Schwarzenegger meaning I want to terminate it part…very fitting!
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