Advice
Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Care If Their Girlfriend Has a Higher Body Count?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Does the average hetero guy really care if his girlfriend/wife has had sex with more people than he has? And if so, why? Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I may be somewhat in the minority here in that, while I […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Am I Being Too Selfish In Bed?

Dear Em & Lo, Every time my boyfriend and I “engage,” he turns me on then asks me to give him a BJ. After I do, I’m not as interested anymore. It happens every time. I’m very uncomfortable when I perform a BJ, and it takes away from the pleasure. I want to know if […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Help, My Husband Has ZERO Sex Drive!

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Why Women Cry After Sex

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been in a serious, committed relationship with a gorgeous woman for almost a year. We first met as friends and then somehow found ourselves being more than friends after 9 months or so. During that time, we learned much about what makes the other tick. We have […]

How To
Top 10 Sex Tips for College Students (Especially First-Years)

  For many young women and men, the end of August marks the start of a new chapter of life — one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking. It’s a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with 18-year-old hormones — which can […]

Wise Guys
Why You Should Lie When He Asks About His Penis Size

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: If a guy asks me how I think his penis ranks size-wise, and I honestly think it’s a little on the small side or perhaps too skinny, what do you think the best approach is? Straight Married Guy (Fred): I’ll start answering […]

How To
5 Ways to Spice Up a One-Night Stand

photo via Flickr One-night stands are inherently pretty spicy, what with all the excitement of the unknown. But they offer a unique opportunity to expand your sexual repertoire without the possibility of being judged or shamed (at least not by someone you know and love). Next time you take a beautiful stranger back to your […]

Wise Guys
Why He Didn’t Call or Text When He Said He Would

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why didn’t he call  (or text/email/Gchat/et al) when he said he would? Straight Married Guy (Matt): There’s a simple answer to this one: it doesn’t matter. Most women I know get very worked up over this, and it never helps anything. It […]

How To
What Are the Rules for Dating Your Friend’s Exes?

As a general rule, we think it’s bad manners — not to mention bad taste — to date or sleep with a friend’s ex, a.k.a. “dating the floor model.” Why ruin a perfectly good friendship for a hook-up that, let’s face it, probably won’t last the season? The ONLY way we think it’s acceptable to […]

How To
10 Quick Ways to Spice Up Masturbation

We know that masturbation feels like an easy lay, but just because you’re a sure thing, doesn’t mean you always have to treat yourself that way. Here are 10 simple ways to spice up your old routine: Dim the overheads and light some candles Pour yourself a drink Take a long bath (with a nice […]

Dear Em & Lo
Can I Have an Orgasm in My Sleep (If I Haven’t Had One Awake)?

Dear Em & Lo, It’s recently come to my attention that women can have orgasms while asleep, similarly to how men can have wet dreams. I was wondering: is it possible to have them before you’ve had an orgasm? As a 19-year old, I sometimes get turned on, but don’t do anything about it for fear of […]

Confessions
Comment(s) of the Week: Be Smart About Respect

It’s a tie between two responses to our Your Call post Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker? — both of which are great advice for any relationship. First, Dannie said:  This is a question that ultimately only you can answer, because only you know your priorities.  Is intelligence the most important thing to you?  On the flip […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Like Strip Clubs?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why are some guys so into strip clubs? Do most guys buy into the fantasy that the stripper is actually enjoying herself — or don’t they care? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Lots of guys aren’t into strip clubs. Probably […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is Intellectual Inequality a Deal Breaker?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Tell My Married Boyfriend’s Wife About Us?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

How To
6 Kinds of Lube & 6 Reasons to Use Them Every Time

LELO’s Personal Moisturizer (75 ml)  Lube gets a bad rap, so we’d like to clear its name here once and for all: Store-bought personal lubricant is not a “crutch” for people with faulty machinery. And reaching for the wet stuff doesn’t mean you’re “not into it,” “frigid” or “kinky.” It just means you like to […]