Anal Sex
Confessions
If You Want to Make Sex Equal, Stop Viewing Penetration as Submissive

Reader Lily had a lot to say this week in response to our (oldie but goodie) post “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On.” We’ve gathered her various comments into one post here for your edification. Preach it, Lily! And we would just add that misperception doesn’t make something so; if we […]

How To
A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Sex

Freud really screwed things up. Add ass play to the long list of fun sex acts he turned into big social no-no’s. Sure, he said fascination with your own bum was an important and necessary part of a child’s development, but then he diagnosed that same pleasure in adults as immature and dysfunctional. Why should […]

Dear Em & Lo
Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and spirit: […]

Wise Guys
What Straight Guys Really Think About Backdoor Play

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious? Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid […]

How To
Top 5 Rules of Engagement for Backdoor Toys

We’re always thrilled to hear about people opening themselves up — as it were — to new sensual experiences in the backdoor area. Unfortunately this particular region seems to encourage experimentation with D.I.Y. sex toys — and it’s the last place you should be going D.I.Y.! Our E.R. nurse friend confirms that those stories about […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On

Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make. My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe: Can I Use the Backdoor with Hemorrhoids?

Every few weeks, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, tackles questions about male sexuality here on EMandLO.com. To ask Dr. Joe your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, Is it safe for me to enjoy receiving anal play if I have hemorrhoids? — Backdoor Bob Dear B.B., I guess the pertinent words here […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Strap-Ons Can Bring a Couple Closer

a Starter Strap-on Kit SJM, responding to the post  “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On“: This is something that will make a relationship grow. Plain sex gets old. It took me forever to open up to my gf about how I wanted her to [“plug”] me, or whatever. But when she […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love + Trust + Strap-On = Good Times for Everyone

a Starter Strap-On Kit Yep, the strap-on post continues to rake in the comments! Today’s featured comment is #210 out of a total of 214 (and counting) responses to the original post. (Only another 70 comments or so to go to catch up with the small penis post!) I asked the girlfriend to do this […]

Toys
The Gentleman’s G-Spot Massager by Lelo

We’re suckers for a decent sex toy, especially if it’s made by Lelo, the Swedish “pleasure objects” company with impeccable taste and an eye for ergonomics. They’ve just come out with a new phthalate-free gizmo for guys — yes, guys — butchly named “Billy” and designed with men’s sensitive little prostate glands in mind. Your friendly […]

Dear Em & Lo
Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Most Straight Guys Secretly Love Bum Play?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious? Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On

Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make. My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Help, My Boyfriend Got Intimate with His Travel Toothbrush!

photo by Joe M500 Dear Em and Lo, I have recently gotten my boyfriend interested in anal play (namely his, not mine) and while I think this is a good way to further explore different opportunities for pleasure, he seems to have gone about it in the wrong way. After experimenting with fingers with no […]